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I really messed up this weekend

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Soundofmusic, Sep 11, 2017.

  1. Soundofmusic

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    Totally agree. They would support me. They just want me to be in a relationship and men are all they know (boo) haha
     
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    Exactly.

    So have you messaged that girl you like yet about her events?
     
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    ugh no. ive been looking at her facebook posts (seriously she posts like 50 times a day) to see which one I could ask her about/comment on but none of them have any relation to what I do lol... I did just like a post. AND the event we're both going to is on Saturday, so Ill see her sooner rather than later.
     
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    Maybe you could ask her something like, 'I was wondering if you had any events coming up related to (insert what you do) because I'd really love to attend one?
     
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    @silverhalo "our personal therapist and matchmaker." :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm expecting wedding invites for this, ok?
     
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    Oh man, can you imagine how much fun we would be at an EC wedding?
     
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    Haha good tip!!!
     
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    I will be in the corner consoling the sad drunks.
     
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    Yeah, Silverhalo. The kind of friend we all need.
     
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    Ok so I have a question for all of you, especially those who have previously been married but also from anyone that wants to answer. Assuming you find the right partner is marriage something you want in the future?
     
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    Good question. I would definitely be willing to enter a partnership. I'm too recently separated to answer in an unbiased way. Maybe? Right now the idea is too scary.
     
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    I wouldn't say never, but at this point in my life I don't feel I need to have a marriage to have a commitment to someone.
     
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    Yeah that's fair enough, I was just interested. You are not completely ruling it in or out and I get that.

    Yeah i totally understand that.
     
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    I'm not burned on marriage, but I'm not sure it's what I want in the future. For years, I've believed that marriage is simply a social contract and that the partners should be the ones to set the terms (including duration of the contract), so that would be the marriage I'm looking for - if at all - instead of the current state of marriage.
     
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    Yeah thats an interesting take on it.
     
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    I think so... but im always torn between a really amazing career or a family. I guess itll depend on when/if i meet anyone ever. But id feel weird about a wedding. I just wouldnt feel that people would be comfortable
     
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    Oh honey - a wedding is for you and the people who you want to celebrate with. If they're not comfortable, screw them. If they're not comfortable, they're not people you need around - seriously. Because if they can't celebrate your love publicly, are they really supporting you privately?

    I'm not jaded, I swear. I'm actually just learning to be comfortable saying - I'm important and what I want is important and who cares what anyone else thinks. That doesn't mean I'm unkind, it just means I get to choose to have positive, supportive people surround me. And you deserve that as well.
     
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    I echo driedroses words and also add, who says you have to chose between a really amazing career or a family?
     
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    I absolutely agree with you. And if I were to get married perhaps Id have like a 10 person ceremony lol. But I just come from a very conservative country and though my friends and family "support" me, I know they're a little uncomfortable with it. So I wouldn't even know who to invite..