Ok, so I am currently conflicted about a few things with srs like do I want it and such. Right now I am leaning slowly towards actually wanting srs, but at the same time I don't know if I even care about frontal penetration. I heard about people possibly just letting the area heal closed and leaving just the labia and clitoris, but I also heard about a variation of srs that would give the look of the proper genitals, but without the ability to be penetrated. I'm hoping there are some ladies here who can give me some insight on this.
I'm not sure I will have bottom or not... I don't particularly mind it as much as chest up being my source or physical dysphoria. But this is deeply personal. I'm not sure what to counsel but you have to weigh the pain/cost/type of care vs. What you want.
Tbh what I really want is to just be 100% female. To be able to use female facilities and never have anyone doubt that I belong there. Right now, I don't have any "fantasies" about using what is between my legs or being penetrated in the front either. I guess I don't care really if the genital are usable for sex, so much as just wanting them to look right.
I still don't know much about the possibility of just, not dialiating and if that would work to just let it heal closed.
I don't know. I'm not a medical expert on vaginaplasty. Ask a medical professional like a plastic surgeon or gynecologist.
Considering mine makes me uncomfortable at best, and the sight of it grosses me out often(depends on the day and my mood), it's a question of when not if. I can't understand wanting to let it close though...do people do that?
Well, the only reason to dialate is to be able to have frontal penetration right? What purpose does it serve then for asexual or demisexual people?
Plenty of women aren't into penetration. Ain't nothing wrong about that. If you're unsure, you shouldn't feel pressured to do it.
That is true, I wasn't thinking of that.... I suppose frontal penetration isn't a must for some like it is me.
As time goes on I am feeling more dysphoria for the thing between my legs. I am really considering srs now, I just feel unsure about wanting to do the "sexual" upkeep
Though I'm not in Transition, I have thought about it so maybe it's not my place to say, but if I do ever decide to transition I think that for me if I had bottom surgery it would have to be unconventional as while I would be fine with losing my testicles I would want the most sensitive bits to remain intact because no matter what is down there the very real likelihood that I might lose the ability to Orgasm scares the hell out of me. Though being able to be frontally penetrated sounds pretty wonderful too! To add to the confusion I have seen video's where men who for whatever reason have had their penises removed have been able to achieve orgasm, so maybe that ability might remain. But in the end it has to be what makes the individual feel right in their own skin, for me I just couldn't imagine a life without being able to have an orgasm.. though at times I am able to have a prostate orgasm which is pretty good, but it's still not quite the same.
I'm kinda the same way. Today is one of those days where I don't even care to think about it's presence. That was a main factor in me being undecided when I first decided I wanted to transition, but TBH now it doesn't matter I just want a vagina that bad. I feel like it might be the same for you, you'll eventually just be like "don't care I'm getting it anyway."
it's getting to that point for me... I just think, I may need to ask a doctor about SRS without the "hole" I know it may cause issues with a SO when I have one, but I would just explain that it would be impossible to penetrate my vagina. Besides, I know I like stuff from behind.
See, I need frontal penetration ability. I need things to work as close to a natal vagina as I can get. But hey, you do you!
there are cis women who can't have frontal penetration. like, it would be very painful for them and cause no pleasure.
I definitely realize that, I just want you to think about it a bit more, you can't have it redone afaik. It perhaps would be different if men weren't my primary romantic interest though...I need my future boyfriend to be able to penetrate me in that way. If you don't and are happy with just the look, then that's fine.
well, for me it's just that having a SO would be more about romantic attraction than sexual, I mainly feel that I'm demisexual, instead of ace, because of having kinks/fetishes, and enjoying online sexual rp with some people.
See, I sometimes forget that other people have identities besides straight and gay... It definitely sounds like this may be a good option for you.