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Would you date a teetotaler?

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  1. crystalbal

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    Hi guys :slight_smile:

    Would you date or be in a relationship with a teetotaler? (A teetotaler is someone who abstains from alcohol.)

    I think most people consume alcoholic beverages (like beer, vodka, wine etc.) during their meals or social gatherings. I think they would prefer that their date or partner would drink with them during these events.

    I'm a teetotaler myself but I feel concerned that I might be rejected for dates or relationships due to this. :frowning2:

    I'm okay with my date / partner (if I have one) drinking alcoholic beverages while we having meals or attending social events together.
     
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    Yeah, even though I would be willing to drink a tiny bit when I'm old enough (I've tried small sips of stuff with alcohol and hate the taste but wouldn't mind as much if it was heavily masked by a different taste), I wouldn't care if they did or didn't drink any alcohol.
     
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    I didn't know there was an actual word for it... Which is kind of dumb in hindsight cause there is a word for every little thing.

    The only time someone's drinking bothers me, is when they drink way too damn much. I'd rather date someone who skipped the booze than drinks too much.
     
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    I might hesitate. Wouldn't want them to constantly lecture me, or feel pressured to start drinking just because I do.
     
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    I am one also :slight_smile:
     
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    Sure. Why not? It means that I won't have to share any of my Chateau d'Expensive French wine. LOL

    Seriously...it seems to me that finding someone to date is hard enough without ruling out teetotalers.
     
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    While I am not a complete teetotaler, I definitely limit my alcohol consumption, so I am close to being one. My family has a history of alcoholism, so I when I do drink (which is not very often) I will stop after one or two then switch to soda, water, or another beverage. I also limit alcohol consumption to holidays and/or special events, and even then it's still the one or two rule.

    I would have no problem whatsoever dating a teetotaler. I would never judge them for it, nor pressure them into drinking alcohol. I think it's because growing up I never saw the point of excessive alcohol consumption, so I could understand their point of view.
     
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    I am not sure that I will drink much myself, as being drunk doesn't mix well with my addictive and depression prone personality.

    So of course I would date someone who didn't drink. That is far better than someone who drinks too much.
     
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    Actually, I prefer them, and did even back when I was dating and occasionally drank.

    My partner, Gideon, requested I stop drinking years ago (as I had a habit of drinking for the wrong reasons, and overdoing it when I did). I did and can honestly say that other than in a few rare times of extreme stress, I've never missed it. In those times of extreme stress? Drinking would not have helped the situation anyway, so it's better I hadn't.
     
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    I don't drink and my girlfriend still goes out with me. I wouldn't lecture her though she is welcome to drink if she wants to.
     
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    At my age, probably not. Drinking's a pretty universal social requirement for uni students, too often (and I am absolutely guilty of it) to dangerous levels. I drink, my boyfriend drinks, almost all my friends drink and getting drunk is just run of the mill.

    In future years, I'm sure it would be far less of a barrier to socialising.
     
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    Anyone who wouldn't date someone simply because they prefer not to drink alcohol... isn't someone I'd want to date.

    There's much more to life than alcohol and the culture that surrounds it, and there are plenty of people out there who don't drink. By all means, stand strong in your values.
     
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    I don't think it will be a problem for many people. If anything I think more people are concerned about ending up with someone who drinks excessively so they might very well view it as a plus. I didn't start drinking until well into my twenties so for me it's not really part of the socializing thing. For my first year going out to bars and clubs I used to order Sprite or Coke. No one ever seemed to have a problem with it, and that was actually at venues built around drinking. I still don't really drink much--it doesn't seem to bother anyone to my knowledge.
     
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    I would strongly prefer to ONLY date a teetotaler, but it isn't always realistic.

    So I would only date either a teetotaler or someone who drinks very infrequently and doesn't really get drunk (or if they do, very infrequently). I know a few people in latter category.
     
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    This. :slight_smile:

    I don't drink.
     
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    Another one who doesn't drink. So agree with this too.
     
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    Yes, I would, though only on the grounds that they did not judge me for occasionally drinking (though my drinking is only motivated by drinking with others. So unless I was at a dinner or party with other people who drink, I would not be drinking around them). But it is something that I enjoy from time to time and I would not want to feel that they disapproved of this side of me. Just as I would not judge them from abstaining from it.
     
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    I was worried about this for a while as I don't drink myself. Both my folks had problems with alcohol when I was growing up and I never liked what it did to them. So I promised myself that I'd never start.

    I did worry for a while that my not drinking would be a put off for potential dates, since its such a big part of socializing in most situations. But as I started getting out more and meeting people, I realized that for the most part people don't have a problem with it. The ones who would have an issue with you not drinking are the type of people you wouldn't want to date anyways; if they'll push alcohol on you they may try to pressure you to do other things you're not comfortable with.

    I would date a teetotaler. I also wouldn't mind it if a date enjoyed alcohol so long as he doesn't get wasted on a regular basis.
     
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    It wouldn't matter either way for me...
     
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    This. I am an infrequent drinker, so I completely agree with this.