For those of you who have come out to your parents: were they surprised? I get the impression that my mom suspects something, at least subconsciously. I haven't come out but I don't go out of my way to hide the fact that I'm a lesbian. I've never had a boyfriend and I keep saying I don't want one, the way I talk about/act around my best friend makes people think she's my girlfriend, I've turned down every guy that's ever wanted to go out with me. And then there are those, I don't know what to call them, jokes (?) that she makes from time to time. Like when she tells me I should get a boyfriend and I reply that I've got [my best friend] or that I don't want one, she sometimes says she's wondering about my sexuality or that I should get a girlfriend instead then. And she was looking at me funny that one time I hugged my best friend in front of her. She probably doesn't actively consider the idea of me being gay but if I brought a girl home one day, I don't think she'd be all that shocked.
My mom wasn't surprised. She's had a suspicion before I came out to her, because I wanted to wear girl clothes and she knew that I did. She even guessed it correctly before I officially told her in our conversation. Haha.
Not really throughout childhood. She always wanted me to have kids and I wasn't interested. Recently she's been asking me "The Question" but I kinda change the conversation. I don't have an direct answer for the question at the moment
Nope, they weren't surprised. They could tell I was hiding my sexuality for a few weeks before coming out. With my gender, it's probably also kind of obvious I'm not male. But, I'm not sure if they are even noticing.
Mine had little inklings but never really seriously have it much thought until my 20s when I hadn't had a girlfriend in a few years (I was dating guys in secret) started hanging around more fabulous men With me, for most close friends and family, there was a massive question mark regarding my sexuality. I bumped into an old school mate from.about grade 6 or so and she thought back then I might be gay. Funny what others see in you...
My mom didn't suspect anything at all. My dad did suspect it mainly because my two Male half siblings apparently would talk to him about girls all the time and I've really never talked to him about who I'm attracted to.
I don't think so? My Mum sounded pretty surprised when I told her at least, but then again, neither of them are the type of people to corner me and directly ask, so they may have suspected something and just not told me.
I couldn't answer for my Dad as he buggered off when I was three years old, but I'm certain my Mum knew. She held on to my shirt the evening before she died and said "I've always loved you in front of all my other siblings bar one. I just knew inside that she had always known.
I was told she thought I was gay when I was a teen. I was busted with gay porn at a very young age and she played it off as a curiosity. Then there was a note I wrote a friend and never gave it to him, which she's never mentioned, but I believed ended up in the washer machine. I remember hearing an argument between her and my homophobic stepfather, which was common but I couldn't hear anything through the walls until I heard him loudly exclaim something that sounded like "he's gay?!". Of course since I couldn't find that note I was terrified and assumed she found it. It was never brought up, and as time passed I convinced myself that I misheard the argument or that it was about someone else, because my mom is fairly liberal despite being religious, and had gay friends. Then there was long periods of self-exclusion and depression as a teenager, I showed no interest in girls and basically sat in my room trapped in my hobbies. I also did some effeminate things like paint my nails, at one point wore eyeliner, dressed in tight clothing. As I got older and became more socialized I hypermasculinated myself to avoid suspicious and basically adopted a character or a normal guy. I got into lifting weights, sports, aggressive music, and got a girlfriend. I think she assumed I was "fixed" as I became an adult. I only came out a few weeks ago as she told me she suspected it as a teen. I really want to ask her about that note because I've spent 15 years worrying about it.
My dad was surprised when I came out as trans, he never suspected anything. I still don't know how my mom feels about it. Maybe never will.
i haven't came out to my parents yet.. my sister definitely suspects me she already calls me lesbian all the time and now even more because i got the haircut and also i think my mom suspects something too because i never had a boyfriend and i say i don't want anyone and she has asked me many times "do you like girls? do you want a girlfriend?" of course my answer is no to these questions because i'm not ready yet to tell anyone..but i think she wouldn't be so surprised if i'd tell her the truth..
After my boyfriend had spent the night many times in my bed and they thought we were "just friends having a sleepover" they eventually somehow caught on and split us up. I guess then they suspected.
They suspected nothing before I began talking to my parents about bisexuality on a regular basis. I had to do this because, in order for me to come out to them, I had to convince them that bisexuality existed.
Nope. I'm pretty sure that my parents never suspected a thing(from what they tell me). I was actually surprised, since I'd always(fairly obviously from my point of view) been skirting the question of my orientation.