She came back to apologize...would you hear her out?

This woman who I've had a physical experience with and I subsequently cut-off contact with, has returned to talk to me. She called and I sent her to voicemail and she text messaged that she'd like to speak to me. I haven't responded. I want to be fair and kind. I also want to protect myself and not get sucked back in to something that didn't feel good for me. There is a part of me that gives women- even toxic women- wayyyyyyyy too many chances. I have a blind spot for women. I see men more clearly.

Friendship with her is not a possibility. We've tried before and it goes right back to where it started with lots of contact, flirting, sexual talk, and it becomes like a relationship, practically, but without the label.

I need a healthy, objective opinion. Would you hear her out? It's been 3 weeks since I cut-off contact, cold turkey.

The reasons why I cut-off contact were because in the last 24 hours of our last interaction, the following things happened:

-Told me that she told her friend nothing was going to happen between she and I.
-Told me she told her roommate the age range of women she'd be dating, but that I shouldn't take that in a bad way.
-Got drunk, drunk texted me, had to call off of work the next day, but denied being drunk when speaking to me (my therapist said this is a huge red flag).
-Told me she found a girl in her bed. That girl is one of her straight-ish BFF's, whom she has a history with and when I asked if anything sexual happened, repeatedly said, "I don't THINK anything happened."
-Told me her roommate kept asking if she "interrupted them" (like they were fooling around) even after I told I didn't wanna hear about it. When I told her that the roommate felt like I did (like something happened), she replied for me to "stop it."
-We had made plans for me to drive two hours to see her and when I asked her if I could get a hug/kiss, she deflected multiple times and then told me to go with the flow and that I was putting too much pressure on the situation. By this time, we've already been physical and had phone sex.
-Ended up "rescheduling" on me and I didn't go out to see her.
-Reminded me a couple of times, on that last day of contact, that she's "a catch."
-Admitted to me that she had just reconnected with a former flame, whom she has a deep connection with.

She wants to have a discussion about something. She mentioned something about a compromise. If this were a guy, I'd want to go running for the hills, but because it's a woman, I just can't see straight.

Would you hear her out? Am I being mean if I don't respond?

I feel like when I get emotional about a situation (and close female relationships are always emotional for me), I don't listen to gut. This time, however, I just feel like I can't trust the woman. I've never had sex with a woman and I know because it's such an emotional experience for me, I'd need to really trust the woman- but there's something about her I just don't trust. And I know she's been very honest with me, even too honest, but I've had that with another woman before, my trigger crush, when she was offering crumbs and I fell for it, losing myself and self-worth, in the process.

 

Thank you, Poppy! It's so relieving to hear that it just isn't me. She told me a few times that she's "a real catch" or "a catch" and it half way had me wondering if I was really missing out by passing her up.

Thank you!!!!

 

Awwwww Cluster. I'm so sorry! How are you feeling about cutting off contact?