At what age did you know you were different

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  1. RavenWing

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    Age 10, that's when I started having feelings for girls and not so much for guys. As I grew up a little I passed it as being bisexual, but only came to terms with myself as being gay this summer.
     
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    I don't actually know..I actually knew very early like when these things started to matter for everyone i could already give that answer..it was never a big deal to me.
    I think part of that is that by that time i already was seen as different and weird due to ADD and being a tomboy..so being bi was kinda the least of my problems.
     
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    I mean I never got hung up on feeling different. Sure I felt different when I was little cos I only hung out with boys and tried desperately to be one but sometimes they didn't quite wanna accept me. In secondary school I was a loser, sure I felt different. By sixth form I don't give a fuck. None of this had anything to do with me percieving my queerness. Like if you wanna know when I first felt sorta queer it would be maybe some moments around 15 to 16 and when I actually felt aware of anything worthwhile noting - 17.
     
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    Around twelve, maybe.

    I started to question my orientation when I was ten, but I didn't get very serious about it until I was twelve and having curious feelings for my best friend.
     
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    I love that quote in your signature yuribunny. I also wanna know what Yuri you like because my only one is Prism if you know that.
     
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    I sort of had feelings for both boys and girls for pretty much forever but I only started questioning myself round the age of 12.
     
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    I knew I was different from an early age, always more responsible than my peers; however, I grew up in a place where gay wasn't talked about, so I did not know how to interpret gay signals in my brain until later in life.

    When we started to take showers after gym in 5th grade, I would always peek to see who was sprouting. I remember thinking that two twins were really cute in 6th grade. I never really had any interest in girls, nor did I realize boys could have sex until later. I was envious of boys who had GF in high school, though I really had a crush on the guys in hindsight. Academics were my perfect cover/closet for my lack of interest in girls. Now that I'm out, it's all so clear in retrospect.
     
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    It's hard to say. Ever since I was ten, which is a super young age for someone to be sure about their sexuality, I didn't really have interest in getting in a romantic relationship with ANYONE ever. I was told that "That's because you're young. When you get at about sixteen, you'll change your mind about this completely."

    It sounded reasonable enough, so I just assumed I was heterosexual.The more time went on, though, the less I actually believed that I was straight and the more I believed I was ace. At fourteen, I still am not interested in a relationship or sexual activity with anyone. At fifteen, I still am not interested in a relationship or sexual activity with anyone. It wasn't until I actually reached the age about sixteen that I confirmed that I am for sure an aromantic asexual.
     
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    Oh, thank you! ^.^

    I mainly like slice-of-life anime with yuri subtext, like Kin-iro Mosaic. ^^ Or YuruYuri, but I guess that's way beyond subtext!
     
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    I remember actually thinking that I felt different from my friends during recess in elementary school. We were sitting in the grass and two of my friends were talking about their current crushes, and I literally thought to myself, "Why do I feel so different from them?". It was like 3rd grade so I didn't really know what being gay was. I had crushes on girls but I was too young to tell crushes apart from wanting to be their friend or be like them. I told my friends I had a crush on the tallest boy in our class, but I was really just jealous that he was tall. Didn't have my first serious crush until 7th grade. It was on a girl in my best friend's class, and we had never talked before. I thought I was bi since I still didn't know anything about homosexuality since there had never been any LGBT influences or role models in my life at all.
     
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    I kind of always "knew" but it wasn't until I was around 12-13 years old that I could actually put a word to it (I didn't know what gay meant until then lol) .
     
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    In a general sense, Ive always been different and was constantly reminded of that from a young age. In terms of sexuality, I'd say I knew something was was up when I was around 12. I didn't even exactly why or even what gay was way back when, so it was a few years later when I realized I was gay and accepted it.
     
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    I was 4. I had this gnawing feeling that something about me wasn't "normal".

    I remember one experience (I don't remember my exact age) like it was yesterday - my twin brother (straight) was out in the backyard playing and horsing around with our best friend next door. I just had this stormy feeling inside like there was something that separated me from them, as real as the glass of the patio door. It's odd to recall something that vividly that would so clearly indicate things to come.
     
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    I knew I was different from a very early age. I have always liked girls. For now, I don't consider myself to be 100% gay. My sexuality is very fluid and changes upon my interest. As for experiences I have been with guys, but not girls. When I was with a guy I felt nothing. as for being with a girl I want it to be the right girl not just anyone. Even if my girl crush returned my feelings I would still want to make sure it feels right.
     
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    I was in my early teens. I found some porno mags and a video tape that had been thrown out. As I watched the video I fantasied about being the woman and being with the man. When I was old enough I ditched that tape and bought a gay tape which thrilled me even more!
     
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    Ever since i was young, maybe around 7, i knew i was different but i didn't know why. It wasn't until high school though when i started questioning my sexuality and then everything just clicked.
     
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    Now that I think about it, even before I knew what sexuality was, when I was in 1st or 2nd grade I kissed another girl on the cheek during class. o3o
     
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    Well I first realized that girls weren't very attractive to me in like 1st grade but back then u know I didn't really realize what that meant. It wasn't until 6th grade where I was like dammmmmmmmmmmm that guys hot. But I just told myself I was still straight till around 8th grade . That's when I finally accepted the fact that I'm gay. And now me being 14 and in 9th grade I'm single and ready to mingle!
     
  20. matt4907

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    I remember having a crush on a girl in 1st grade but I just sort of ignored it until I think 7th grade when I started questioning my sexuality and I didn't completely accept the fact that I was gay until sophomore year of high school.