When did you figure out your gender identity?

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  1. Wolfwing

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    The title says it all.
     
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    I started feeling out of place when I was about 5ish but I was 10 when I realized I was probably a "transexual".
     
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    I was about 22
     
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    About 17, close to 18. It took a few more years after that for me to actually come out and start transitioning.
     
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    Last summer, so I was 14.
     
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    I always felt like my body was wrong but I didn't work out that I was trans until 2015, about halfway through the year.
     
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    18 but I really should've known sooner if I was paying attention.
     
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    I've had dysphoria for a long time but I never actually knew I was trans until I was 14.
     
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    I was 15 and like that above, it was really obvious before that but I was in denial.
     
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    When I look back on it I knew when I was about 10 but I tried the whole fake it until you make it thing(didnt work in the slightest) and it took me quite a while(about 10 more years) to truly come out to myself and accept it.
     
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    I started to privately identify as 'more girl than boy', i.e. effectively transfeminine (though I didn't know of any such labels or that transgenderism was even a thing), when I was about 5. Then I suppressed it becuase of various reasons including bullying, trauma and introvertedness, until I was about 19, when I went through a number of non-binary identitites, gravitating toward femininity, until settling on female.
     
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    I haven't figured out I was some kind of trans before I was like 23. Looking back I see plenty of clues (including the fact I was only attracted to women if I imagined being also a woman), but because I have a lot of typically male interests I guess I confused it all with just sexuality or ignored the signs.

    So I'd say vague clues at puberty that I can only identify in hindsight, and actual questioning slowly starting past 20 and peaking at 23 till now when I'm fairly confident in my feelings.
     
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    I'm not what you mean by "figure out". I'm still uncertain. But I figured I have a "boy brain" at 14. I didn't think it means I'm trans though...
     
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    Knowing? For sure... about 31. Knowing I was different? Like 5th grade.

    Accepting? 33.
     
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    I knew I was "different" my whole life but I did not know my true gender identity until 2 years ago when I was 15 and found the term "Genderfluid." Im 17 now and happier than ever.
    (!)(!)(!)(!)(!)
     
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    It was definitely a journey through identities, I identified in a lot of different ways from under the non-binary umbrella but it looks like I'm a plain and simple slightly feminine/androgynous dude.
     
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    honestly? still working on it. but I know im more than the sum of my parts.
     
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    I've hated and felt uncomfortable in my body from about 7 but never realised it was dysphoria. Started properly questioning and realising that I might be trans when I was about 15/16. Took me 2 years to come to terms and I accepted my identity as a transguy about 6 months ago.
     
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    I finally figured it out at 15, nearly 16 years old.

    I would have been able to know earlier if I knew being trans was a thing. Unfortunately, we learn about gay people, but I didn't hear any mention of trans people before I turned 15, and that was because I looked for it on the internet. From then on, figuring it out was easy. Getting help for transition was the real pain, though.