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How Offended Do You Get From LGBT+ Slurs?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by SabreBear, Feb 14, 2016.

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How high is your tolerance towards slurs?

  1. Very Low

    22 vote(s)
    32.4%
  2. Some Bother Me

    32 vote(s)
    47.1%
  3. Very High

    14 vote(s)
    20.6%
  1. SabreBear

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    This is something that I've been curious about. Me and a friend of mine deduced that we didn't feel any sense of offense when someone calls us slurs. I myself can't bring myself to care what slurs people use, and it doesn't bug me in the slightest. However I know that there are a grand amount of people who can and will get offended by slurs.

    So I'm curious, how high is your tolerance towards orientation/gender/etc slurs? Do you not care? Do some slurs bother you? Or do all slurs bother you?
     
  2. Browncoat

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    Slurs by themselves do not bother me. Their intent in use does.
     
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    I've got a very high tolerance to this kind of thing. I honestly find it really difficult to be offended most of the time.
     
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    I actually voted 'very low'.

    Of course, I wouldn't blame someone if they genuinely had no ill intent. I just think - I think carefully about the language that I use around people, and I don't really see what's so difficult about that.
     
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    So, just pointing out... the thread title itself says "how offended do you get from LGBT+ slurs" while the poll question asks "how high is your tolerance of slurs?"

    That may cause a somewhat unrepresentative sample. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Haha, you're not wrong, Browncoat! I voted for the wrong option because I got confused. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I had to use my Mod powers to correct myself!

    If the OP wants to rename the thread or poll, let the staff know and we can sort that out. Having said that, maybe people are more observant than me!
     
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    Oh that's a good point. I didn't even notice that, but that could definitely cause some confusion! Good catch Browncoat!
     
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    what kinds of slurs do you mean?
     
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    I'm pretty much in the closet lol. So I haven't experienced LGBT+ slurs around me at all to date. So I voted "Very Low"

    EDIT - LOL. I mean I have High Tolerance lol, but I'm very low in taking offense to LGBT Slurs
     
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    Against me, personally, I can deal with it. Against other people? I wont stand for it.
     
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    I only hate slurs that I have bad memories with.
     
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    I'm deaf most of the time, even for compliments, so very low...
     
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    It depends on who's saying it and in what context I guess. If it were one of my friends, I would be fine with it, because my friends are all queer themselves. So they would just be joking about it. And they seem to do that a lot. When they use LGBT+ slurs they're making fun of straight haters who come up with ridiculous nicknames for what they don't understand. So then it's fine, and really, pretty funny to be honest :3

    But if it came out as an insult, I probably wouldn't tolerate it.
     
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    Depends.

    There are some that I absolutely cannot stand. Pretty much all trans slurs fit into this category. I also wouldn't like it if someone used the f slur for gay people or the n slur to refer to black people.

    All in all, slurs should go die.
     
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    Very high. Sexuality is my sensitive part of me.
     
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    It depends really.

    If someone uses it as a slur then I will take it as offense.
    But I have LGBTQ+ friends that will use them on themselves in a joking manner. I will take them in such a light hearted manner.

    So it all depends on the context in which they are used.
     
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    I have a high tolerance i think. Unless someone uses the word with the direct intention to offend me or another person, i don't think i mind them at all.

    For example, my friends and i are used to call each other using bad names, and we are all fine with it.
     
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    I'm not comfortable with anyone using terms: gay or straight. For some reason, there seems to be one rule for homophobic terms and another for racist. They're both as bad.
     
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    To me, a slur is only a slur if used as a slur.

    Ignorant statements clearly not meant as slurs do not bother me...I simply correct them and move on with no offense taken.

    To me, the more offensive thing is people using such slurs *inappropriately*, or otherwise equating LGBT people with things to which they should not be equated. Calling someone "faggot" that you don't actually believe is gay, for instance; or using "that's so gay" to describe something you think is stupid, lame, or inferior. "Gay" is not a slur...it should not be used as one. "Faggot" *can* be a slur...I understand that one straight man calling another straight friend "faggot" is not intentionally an insult to gay people...but they use the word as a "playful" insult...and using a word for a concept that should not be insulting as an insult...that actually *is* an insult.

    So yeah...I'm apt to call bullshit on stuff like that, too.