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Getting tired of this No asians No black etc.

Discussion in 'General Support and Advice' started by ShaiHulud, Jan 1, 2016.

  1. ShaiHulud

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    I know apps and websites are not a good representation of the whole gay community(i dont know about lesbians and trans), but i guess a good majority of people use those websites and most of them write bullshit like No femmes, No black, No Asians, No fat, No Grampas and so on. I am getting tired of this thing, because this stupid behaviour then reflects on real life and people start to think it is normal and ok to discriminate other gays, and if you call them out they answer "It is just my preference", NO IT IS NOT!!

    So Please if you are one of those, stop doing it, you can say "No Thanks" instead of discriminating different racial groups, age or whatever.
    And if you are one of those who has been discriminated by fellow gays, keep in mind we are not all like this.
     
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    This has been a problem of LGBT community since these dating apps started or may be even before these apps gained popularity. There are various factors for these kind of behaviour among gay men. The popularity of clothing brands which promote certain shape of body is an example. It dictates which body type is attractive and which are not. Also, the prevalence of caucasian men in porn imdustry than, say, asians may also have contributed to this problem. Another is stereotypes. All of these resulted to the discrimination against Asians and Black, most apparent in dating apps.

    Now, I'm Asian and currently live in an Asian country. Even though most of us have the same ethnicity here. You won't believe that a considerable part of our community still dreams of having Caucasian partner just because they are 'Caucasian'.
     
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    Totally agree, especially with porn, the norm is the white guy, black and asians become categories for "those with the fetish".
    I deleted myself from those apps because it made me crazy and i lose attraction after i read stuff like that, racism is such a turn off.
     
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    This year would be my last year in college *hopefully*. My goal is to work here in the Philippines for several years to gain experience and then move to another country which promotes equal rights. But because of this rampant racial discrimination; especially, in Europe because of Refugee crisis and terrorism, it made me rethink my ambitions but I still think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Moving may still be better than staying here in PH.
     
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    Do not change plans, do what you want to do, especially if you live in a close minded city.
    where would you like to move?
     
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    West European countries, based on articles that I've read, have high demands for engineers. Scandinavian countries, too. There are some multinational companies here in the Philippines that also have offices and plants in Scandinavia. Basically, away from European countries that don't suppprt. equal rights. *ehem* Slovenia.

    It seems like racial discrimination is becoming a big problem now in Europe especially towards West asians because of their culture and religion. Neo-Nazis are scary.
     
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    If you are worried about racial discrimination, do not go to Germany, their xenophobia is somehow in their culture.
    But do not panic about all that stuff, not all countries are buying into that hate propaganda.
    Sweden seems like a nice place, and i know a lot of swedish people and they are all super nice.
     
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    Yeah, I know what you mean. I personally prefer Asians, though I never really say it in a profile. I'm not really inclusive or exclusive on public pages. I believe preferences don't need to be stated to be exercised.
     
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    I've never used an app like that, but I know full well that all straight dating apps have an unspoken rule of "no trans people". I have no preference for race. It seems like a silly thing to discriminate by.
     
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    Jesus. Even this thing of NO TRANS PEOPLE is making me crazy, like there is not enough transphobia.
    Discriminating a person because of their "genitals", it is like writing NO SMALL DICKS, NO HAIRY VAGINAS and so on, it is totally stupid.
     
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    I think that those messages are a convenient way to weed out potential dates who are racist, transphobic, etc. Why would you want to date a person like that anyway?
     
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    Hook up sites tend to be very shallow since it's all about the sex, so I'm not surprised. I've uninstalled all my apps because even when someone was interested in me, they only wanted to hookup and nothing more. I'm not about that life.
     
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    I don't want to use any hook up app personally. It's just not my thing.
     
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    The only way to meet other gays for me is either downloading apps or going to clubs. and i hate them both :frowning2:
     
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    Dating apps are terrible anyway.
     
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    As much as I agree, that just leaves more men for me. Asian guys are attractive, heck all races are. What really irks me is when asians, blacks, etc. deny other people like them because they want a "white boy."
     
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    I disagree. Preferences exist and in my opinion you shouldn't take it so seriously. It's not that they are not accepting asians or black people for a job or something. It's just a dating website(if you that's what you are talking about, I couldn't really tell from your post).
    "No trans people" "No hairy vaginas" well Idk if you noticed but dating apps are there just for sex 90% of the people there just look for hook ups and I don't feel attracted sexually to girls with penises or girls with hairy vaginas. I mean, they're OK, they're perfect, just don't expect me to like the idea of sex with them.
    (Not that I use any of these apps but I see no problem on stating your interests)
     
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    This is why I will never use apps. I tried because I was told that in Korea, where I currently live, it's the only way to make gay friends. What total BS! I was lied to, guys were rude, they only wanted to hook up and I am NOT into that at all. One guy even told me while we were having dinner that I should stop eating because I am fat and if I lost weight I would be more attractive and he would like me more - I looked at him, put my money on the table, and walked out.

    I don't go to clubs either. Not my scene at all. Maybe I am boring but I like who I am and I like having fun in other ways like concerts (classical music etc, spending time with friends in places we can actually talk and not shout at each other :slight_smile:

    Those apps made me feel less than human and like I didn't even deserve to make friends. I haven't used an app since 2011 and I will never. Call me old-fashioned but I prefer to meet people in real life and make friends - or here on EC where we are all nice people together and supportive.
     
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    Yeah, they're trash. And don't worry, it's not just the gay ones. For whatever reason the overwhelming majority of people who use online dating services are tremendously shallow and not actually looking to be in a long term relationship.
     
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    "No Asians. No blacks." "Good. More for me." :slight_smile: