One of my friends says that she believes herself to be Agender and i was wondering if i could get a description to give to her since both of us have a rough idea but want to know more. And i am wondering what you would call my other friends identity: she doesn't give a crap about what you see her as but does sometimes feel female and sometimes feel male.
First: I'm not nb, so... yeah.. ^^ If your first friend is agender, then she may feel: that she doesn't have a gender at all; that she is just neutral; that her gender is very different from what most people experience/inexplicable. Your other friend sounds genderfluid. If she doesn't give a crap what you see her as that just means she doesn't have social dysphoria. Genderfluid is an umbrella term though. If she feels like she is a guy one day and is a girl the other, then she might be bigender. But to me, at least, it sounds more like she is genderfluid. Hope that helps! x
Becki put it pretty well, it's good you're trying to better your understanding of your friends' identities.
This is the general explanation for being agender, and it's hard to elaborate in terms of what all agender people feel any further. I look at other genders and feel completely removed from them and right now my dysphoria is really bad and having a female body/people seeing me as a girl gives me hot flushes and makes me want to throw up but personally I don't want to change my body to be more gender neutral like some agenders do because, like, it doesn't mean anything to me, I just hate that it means things for other people. If you have any more specific questions, feel free to ask, but I don't know what you consider your "rough idea". This doesn't sound very useful but hey ho.
