First, thank me for going against the crowd and offering you the advice of reaching out to her Second, ask yourself what do you want in a relationship and then see which woman can fulfill that. Perhaps you need to go on dates with both to help determine your answer. BTW - Who is the second woman - the lawyer from the meetup?
Apologies, I needed some positive validation. I went to my gay father's support group last night and then out for drinks with some of the guys. When I got home, my wife insinuated that I had participated in some sort of gay orgy... The sad thing is that while she has gay and lesbian friends, she's flung so much shame in my direction in the form of homophobic remarks and stereotypes. I don't think her gay and lesbian friends would be happy with her if they knew about the shit coming out of her mouth.
Your absolutely correct, my emotions are all over the place and I'm feeling overwhelmed. I'm attracted to both of them...
As long as you are open about going out a few times with each of them, I don't think you should have to decide whom to date before you even start. There are plenty of people who date a few people at least a few times before deciding to get serious with one person, or choosing to seriously date several people at one time.
Thank you! ---------- Post added 22nd Jul 2015 at 06:18 PM ---------- I will go out with both of them and see what happens from there.
just go out with them and see who you like. there's no obligation of marriage to go on a date. personally the lady at work (even though she apologized) seems like she is dramatic. yes she apologized but she is a grown women and this probably is part of her make up at this point and you can expect more tantrums out of her when stressed or when she has issues. i personally would not be bothered with her but usually what happens is that we want the person that is not good for us and side-step the good person and seek the drama. like a moth to the flame burned by desire.
---------- Post added 23rd Jul 2015 at 07:51 AM ---------- I'm on a journey and I'm still trying to figure things out. Thanks for the advice! I'm having fun but my eyes are wide open at the same time...
*UPDATE* I ended the potential office romance and cut off all contact! No regrets, thanks for your continuous support! You guys rock!
I just read all of this, and it's all so exciting. Sorry the office one is off. Even though she absolved herself of her earlier rudeness to you, it still happened. I can't help but think that it's for the best that she is out of the picture. It's great that you gave her that second chance, but yeah, I don't think anyone has time for unpredictable friends. This is our special time (newly out, that is) strength got us to this point, we don't need any flakes to distract us. That's my thought at least It really was exciting to read about someone going through all of this. :icon_mrgr
Thanks Sue! I tried but couldn't get past her initial reaction to me. My other acquaintance has really upped the ante and things are going well with her. I've been through a lot in life and I have very little tolerance for drama or stupidity. I'm pleased with my decision! (!)
You go girl! Smart move! :eusa_clap ---------- Post added 2nd Aug 2015 at 05:07 PM ---------- I've read all of your posts you've come a long way, congrats!!!
Glad to hear that things are going well for you and that you have people who are interested in you. Yeah, you probably did the right thing with the office one. You don't want to be in a relationship full of reactions and later apologies.