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What was your reaction when you found out your orientation?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by shotonthechest, Dec 3, 2014.

  1. theskyiseverywhere

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    I saw a picture of Liam Hemsworth and I thought "What if I like boys?" I then freaked out, closed the tab, and denied it for 6 months before accepting who I am.
     
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    i was actually really happy because a lot of my friends are gay guys so it made me feel better as i can comment on other guys with them
     
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    "Well, I think I finally understand myself..." Something like that. Basically I felt relieved because I was feeling less doubt about it.
     
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    no no no no no NO NO NO NO NO NO

    ..... pretty much sums it up. Full on denial for nearly 7 years, I have an accepting family and community, but I just wanted (/want?) to be *normal*.
     
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    I always sort of felt straight (because I felt more attracted to girls) but then I discovered that girls are more attractive than men are naturally. But I always felt attracted to men almost as much. Ive even had sex with a guy friend and a girl and I felt the same with both. So then I discovered I was bi because I am really attracted by both. My reaction was like I hated myself for not being normal but then I realized I shouldn't worry and I am who I am not just my sexuality and after I overcame everything and got used to it I started to love myself for it and support myself. And now I'm more open to myself about thinking men are attractive and now I even have more fantasies. So I guess my reaction was sort of comforting than ignoring the attraction.
     
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    I just thought: "Holy shit, I...I'm...Gay!" And life moved on...
     
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    Honestly, this gif sums it up nicely
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    I was like "Let's skip to the good bit.".
     
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    It came to me quickly over the course of a few months that I just can't be straight. At first I thought I wasn't actually gay, just somewhat confused. But I realized that I actually do like guys, and it almost clicked into place in my mind. I find it easy to accept my attraction toward men or peers simply because the feeling is there. Sometimes I distance myself from the fact I'm gay by just keeping quiet about it, but in the end, I don't feel too bad about it. If anything, I guess I feel kind of...lonely.
     
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    I put off like "discovering" my sexuality for a while. I always knew I was't straight but like it never really hit me till highschool. I remember when I first said "I'm bisexual" in the mirror to myself I started smiling like an idiot.

    It was kinda like "F*ck yes I am" everything kinda just clicked.(!)
     
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    My story is weird as. It was definitely relief that I felt sexual attraction even though it was to guys. Mainly because I had previously identified as asexual on account of my low sex drive and lack of people I found attractive as a teenager.
     
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    I was in complete denial. I told myself, "You're straight. Your mom and dad's perfect little boy." and I believed myself for about an hour. After that I told myself I was bi. Stuck for a week. When I finally gave in and accepted the fact that I only like guys, I was done and was just like, "cool." and that's been that.
     
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    This ^
     
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    My "aha" moment happened when I was 16. I was taking a shower and all of the sudden I just realized that I was gay, "by definition" I thought "but no, I can't be gay". I was terrified and in severe denial for another two years before I finally accepted myself.
     
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    Holy sh*t. I'm asexual. That's fricken awesome.

    Wow, I'm romantically attracted to men and women? Huh. So that explains why I really like some men and some women.

    I experience aesthetic attraction to both men and women? So THAT'S why I thought I was bisexual. It all makes sense now.
     
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    I was so far into denial, every homosexual anything irked the hell out of me. I had a lot of anger. Consider a homophobe and how they completely hate homosexuality. Now imagine that same homophobe is yourself. All I felt was self-loathing and a huge amount of hate.
    I remember being attracted to older woman as a pre-teen, but although I see a pretty girl, I never have the urge to have sex with her....I might be heteroromantic, but sexually I'm gay....I do want kids and a beautiful wife, but I also want a relationship with a guy but afraid to be seen. Lol I'm still confused.
     
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    When I first had that 'Sh*t, I'm bi!' moment, I broke down into tears and not long after I told my three closest friends because I felt I needed to tell someone and get it off my chest.