have you ever been in love with someone straight?

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  1. shotonthechest

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    I just wonder. Am I the only one who's in love with a straight woman? :tantrum:
     
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    Me? Not really, as it was not real love. I've been in relationships with straight women, but saying it was love is not true.

    It's not uncommon. I know someone who is gay who was in love with another guy, who happened to be straight.
     
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    I've been in love with a straight women. Well last time I checked she was straight. However she did admit that she was in love with me when we were younger but now she identifies as straight.
     
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    Love, is not a word that i would use to describe a one sided infatuation between two people.
     
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    All of my crushes have been straight.

    So, yeah.
     
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    My first crush was straight, I confessed, he rejected me. We remained friends.
     
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    Of the five really strong crushes that I can recall, the first three were straight and the last two are pretty close to impossibly unobtainable. I always want what I can't have. =/
     
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    Yep. Whatever, I don't really care. It hurts a little, yeah, but I eventually get over it.
     
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    Sort of. I had a college roommate that I was in love with. We were great friends and did everything together. He was a year ahead of me and when he graduated he stuck around in town for my final year. When I graduated I was going to India for a year to travel. Word got back to me that he was going to ask me to stay. I wasn't sure what I really thought of that--it was a great opportunity (I got a travel fellowship) and he didn't really have any standing to ask, etc. At any rate he never directly asked, instead when all my friends threw me a big going away party he showed up late, drunk, started to cry and passed out. I left the next morning without seeing him again. I didn't come out until after college and when I did most of my college friends were like "oh yeah, you and X." But no, I didn't even tell him until after college. When we finally talked about it there was sort of a long silence and finally he said "I guess that's like a whole lifestyle thing?" My response was that yeah I supposed it was but I was happy. Then after another long silence he replied "I could never do that." Another long silence. "I'm sorry." He actually ended up marrying a mutual (female) friend. I have a lot of bittersweet memories about the whole thing...
     
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    Yes, I've thought I was in love with both straight guys and girls. But now I realize that I've never been in love :slight_smile:
     
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    Yes, I've had quite a few crushes on straight women - however, this happens less and less now. Or, at least, I'm better at nipping them in the bud :grin:
     
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    I don't know if what I was feeling was love or just a crush. Most of my crushes are straight. The two strongest ones, anyways, are bi and lesbian. The bi one is immature and I don't know if I could ever be in a successful relationship with him, and I don't know if the lesbian knows I exist (well, she did say hi to me, but I don't know if she cares for me at all). And the worst part is that I'm a trans guy crushing on a lesbian; if she were to like me, it would only be for my body, I guess. I'm not a girl.

    I've had a crush on the bi friend for about four years now and the lesbian for a half a year.
     
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    Not so much in love but definately had a massive soft spot for a girl who used to go to my gym.. didn't find out she was straight until I plumped up the bottle to ask her... ooooh damn it!
     
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    I've had crushes on straight people, it's annoying. It wasn't love, so no, I have never been in love with a straight girl.
     
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    What gay guy hasnt have a crush on a straight dude?
     
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    Kind of. One of my close friends who is straight, was my first male "crush" but even then it has mostly sizzled out.
     
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    Straight girl? Nope, never will.

    Straight guy? No but, it could happen. Really unlikely. I don't think I could easily be friends with a straight guy. I don't know why. Maybe it's just my thoughts right now. I just don't think a straight guy would want me as a friend :frowning2:. Not that I want to fall for a straight guy.
     
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    Yeah; I had a huge crush on a girl last year who I'm pretty sure is straighter than a pole. Whoops. I haven't talked to her much this year as we don't have any classes, but whenever I see her those butterflies reappear just a bit :slight_smile: