I am SICK of people posting things and asking questions about bisexuals being "unsatisfied" with one gender and promiscuous. We get judged enough as it is in the world to have people in the LGBTQ community also judging. If you think it might offend someone just don't say it okay.
The thing is, that people cannot learn without asking questions. Just do a quick google search for bisexuality, I'm sure that's not what you want people to learn about bisexuality. Yeah, it might get annoying, but in the end, at least the people are willing to ask questions and be educated about why that assumption (and others) are wrong.
I'm sorry you feel judged. We definitely can't judge all bisexuals the same since promiscuity happens in all sexualities and even monosexuals can be unsatisfied if they're attracted to two different types of physical appearances, you know?
Its not questions in general its stuff like "is is safe for a bisexual to get married since they cant be with one gender?" its stuff like that.
That's still a question and a genuine concern some people have. It might be shitty to hear but it's much better they come here, ask and accept our answer than decide they already know and keep on imagining their warped views of bisexuality are correct. It's like when people come and ask if liking a trans woman makes you gay because we have penises. It sucks that people don't know these things, but the information most people have on subjects like this are based on guesswork and rumour more often than not. Better they hear it from us than someone who will give them the wrong idea.
I'm bisexual and I am currently feeling like I might be more attracted to one gender to the other. Does that statement offend you? Questions for meant for asking and this is a place where everyone should feel free to ask any questions they need answered.
Well it's already been said...but no I am not offended...It's a question I mean if they came on makign rash statements about the supposed "flirtatious and cheating" nature of bisexuals I'd be offended...but for questions like that? not offended
Never attribute to malice what you can to ignorance. Unless the person obviously intends to judge, I don't take it personally.
Seriously, you just need to chill. An ignorant person who is asking questions has a baseline of what they heard from others, but is questioning that and is posting a question so that they can learn the TRUTH behind what they are ignorant about. For you to come onto a support forum where people are seeking knowledge and support, and take offense to things that aren't meant to harm is just silly.
I agree with that you're saying, but how do bisexual women get judged exactly? I don't know how it is where you're from, but where I live a bisexual woman is almost seen as BETTER than a straight woman by most people
I'm sorry you feel that way. The community I have seen judge bisexuals. I truly 100% believe in bisexuality and who am I to judge you or anyone. We are all judged enough. At least know that I won't say anything against bisexuality. I don't think it's promiscuous in the least I think that's terrible that people make that assumption about the entire bisexual community. I think a straight man could be promiscuous I think a straight woman could I think a gay man could a lesbian could or a bisexual anyone can be very sexual if they want to be. But at least know that I would never say anything to judge you or any bisexual person
People only judge what they cannot comprehend. I have bisexual friends that have been in serious relationships with both genders and never cheated on their loved ones. Some people just cannot be open-minded and you cannot let it get to you. A lot of people will judge you, but the only opinion that matters is your own. I wish I could follow my own advice on this one. Someone should!
I'm bisexual that feels that when I make a commitment I should stick to it and if I'm with someone nobody else matters
lol about the title of the thread So, was this all about me? If you read the whole thread you would know why I posted the question. But it seems that you read just the first post, which would be a bit "closed-minded" too. The point is that for many straight people cheating with a partner of the same gender when you are in a straight relationship feels VERY differently than cheating with the opposite gender (= the same gender your official partner is). And if all you are willing to do is to get pissed off, then don't be surprised that people keep asking.
I agree. It's a question. It's a common misconception. Shit happens. People that I've come out to have asked me about stuff like which bathroom I use and what's in my pants, when I "decided" I was a guy, if I have penis envy (I can take it or leave it, by the way), if I wonder what I'd look like if I was "pretty", if I shave--my legs, not my face. In all political correctness, these are not things you want to ask a trans guy. It's considered rude and sometimes derogatory. I get tired of people asking me these awkward questions sometimes. However, most of the people I've come out to don't know what the word "transgender" even means. They have a lot of questions, and I understand that. People just want to understand. Take it with a grain of salt.
Cass, you need to understand that even many *bisexuals* are trying to figure themselves out, and there is a *lot* of diversity among us. There's not a whole lot known about us...we're not a well-studied group, frankly. And we can sound kinda sketchy, if all you know is what you see on TV or hear in the media. So if people don't know and ask questions, it's all to the good. And if there seems to be a diversity of opinion and in the discussion, that's all par for the course. Bottom line: they aren't asking to be offensive; so try not to take offense. Always strive to not be offended by people who want to know better.
I don't think people intend to harm in their questions, and as others said before, at least here in the forum its good when people ask questions in order to get answers, better than not ask and stay with your own opinion
I actually agree with Cass. People need to do their own research and present the research they have done before asking a question. That's just the courteous thing. At least make an attempt to educate yourself before asking others to educate you.