I'm a gay teen who has a lisp. I'm wondering if this makes it harder for me to get a boyfriend. I'm curious to find out other peoples views on this so please share as much as you want.
I actually think it's cute, so it's a plus in my book. One of the few guys in my school that actually has a solid relationship can't actually pronounce his own name.
If people don't date you just because you've got a lisp, they aren't worth it anyway. Lisps can be very adorable.
I don't know as I've never had a lisp. But if a lisp repels men, maybe I should feign having one. Judging by the responses, it doesn't, and that makes me sad but o well.
I don't think it's bad, but I do think that if it is a learned accent, it can seem flamboyant, which can be a positive or negative depending on the listener. Some super-masculine guys may not like it, but that's IMO their internalized homophobia.
As others have said, if someone doesn't want to date you because of a lisp then you don't want them, anyway. That person would be very shallow. And I find lisps really cute.
Lisps are cute. But if you mean the 'gay lisp' and it often being a sign of you being quite flamboyant or effeminate, then yeah I think it makes it narrows down the pool of guys that would be interested in you, to be honest. Take two twins that are otherwise identical apart from that one is broadly masculine and one is broadly feminine. I think a majority of gay guys would find the masculine one more attractive. We've had polls on here that back up something similar to that.
As others have said, lisps can be cute and endearing. I wouldn't worry about it too much. The only people that would be put off by it are ones you shouldn't want to be with anyway.
I'll be the hypothetical feminine twin :icon_wink… and I do have a slight lisp. I have had a few girls tell me they thought it was cute, which I hated because they noticed it. A lot of people don't acknowledge it or don't say anything about it. I've pretty much accepted that I have a bit of a lisp. I'm not sure it counts as a "gay lisp". But when I was about 14 my brother told me that if I wanted to not get picked on at school, I needed to "stop talking like a girl." I never tried to talk like a girl, but after that, I tried to butch up my voice, inflections, and word choices.
To me, this is a classic example of how we are so hard on ourselves. Some people are really uncomfortable with any imperfections, but in reality, those imperfections are actually perfections in the eyes of others. In regards to lisps, I think they're cute too.
Make it harder to get a boyfriend? No I don't think so. There are plenty of people who like lisps. You'll be able to find someone I'm sure.