But I'm not going to ask that question because it truthfully is a personal preference. I'm a black guy and I'm into all types of guys but they aren't into me, which is their personal right. Now while I can always bulk up more I think my results will still be the same; guys just aren't into black guys for the most part. So my question is: what type of guys are into black guys? I know everyone might say "everyone is different", but I think people with the same tastes have something in common. Me personally, I think that guys that like black guys either love the D or trying to overcompensate or they might feel some kind of kin with black people. Only the second option works for me because I'm not what you can call "a stereotype". Edit: Did I post this in the right sub forum?
you'd probably have better luck with guys who aren't just mindlessly in to color (or not in to color because "it's a personal preference"). They're usually better people all around, more intelligent, more compassionate, etc. The ones with the "big black dick fetish" can be just as bad as the "I'd-never-date-a-black-guy". I always found it's more likely to have actual fulfilling relationships with other POC, just because there's already some level of understanding there, and different ideas of what's attractive and what's not.
How about you stop complaining and date who you're attracted to because really that's all that matters. Side note: You don't "try out" being asexual. You either are or you aren't. Don't undermine their orientation
I'm white, & hang (and live) with a pretty mixed group, but racial division is everywhere... no getting away from it. We'd like to be more diverse in the collective I live in, but it's so hard to figure out how to bridge those divides. White privilege is like 90% unconscious--(if you're white!) Throw sex into the mix and it gets really complicated. So I don't have any advice. Just want to say, I know (and live with here) POC & us melatonin deficient queer, trans, who do find partners, like and unlike. So it can happen. I does happen. Believe it--there are people out there who will love you for what you are! Hope you find them! What was the question for that poll????
While that's good and all, I have to be realistic to the preferences of others. It's as if you didn't read the thread at all. ---------- Post added 3rd Dec 2013 at 10:35 AM ---------- Where would I find color blind people?
no one is color blind, that's just something white ppl say so they don't have to assume any responsibility in race relations.
In the end you'll only need to be liked by those you actually like, Why try impress the world, When 90% of them won't be attracted to you? This isn't due to race, But this is most people out there, No matter their race or looks, Just look for that nice 10% and you'll be all set And being African, I find that Black men here get as laid as any other race
All I can say is even though I am not attracted to males. The only thing I can say is from my point of view is that it doesn't matter the race. All the matters is personality.
^Right. I'm white and I recently had a crush in a black guy. Check, please. Inter-racial (I hate that term but I don't know a better one ) relationships, like gay and trans relationships (?) are different, and may be internally recognised as such, but needn't be treated as such.
And that is no one's fault, but your own. You put up a thread that literally made no sense. You didn't put up your sexual orientation (besides a soon2beasexual which is insulting to people who actually are asexual); you didn't say who you are attracted to; and your poll made absolutely no sense. There are people of every race and orientation who are attracted to people of different races. Just find someone you like, don't change for other people.
Well I just mentioned guys, implying that I'm gay. Usually bi guys would have mentioned their successes with women but I didn't. Who I'm attracted to is unimportant, another thing I mentioned in my OP. There are people who like all races but blacks the least it seems. I want to find types who I'm sure that will like me.
1. You also put in date women in there which makes things complicated. 2. How can you say who you're attracted to is unimportant??? Do you want to just take anything that comes your way, or do you want to be in a meaningful relationship that you enjoy and deserve?
I think you're coming at this issue the wrong way. You don't want to look for guys who are "into" black guys anymore than you want to look for guys who would never consider it. Instead, look for those who are into *you*, not your race or ethnicity alone. Try searching for those who share similar interests, values, and life experiences, instead.