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Gays dating FTMs?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Cynder, Jun 17, 2013.

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  1. Cynder

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    Hi guys, I was wondering what the general thoughts are for dating transgendered people. I know some people would not, and that's ok, but I would like to get a feel for what you all think about it and why. I guess this goes for lesbians with MTFs or straight people dating trans people too.
    I'd love to hear your thoughts.:thumbsup: thanks!
     
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    I would certainly be willing to try it out.

    But a sex life is a reasonably important part of the relationship for me, and my partner having a penis is a large contributing factor to my sex life... so whether it would be fulfilling for either of us is a concern for me. Of course there are penis (re)construction surgeries and so on though.
     
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    But what about someone who chooses not to go through bottom surgery and instead uses a strap on?
     
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    "whether it would be fulfilling for either of us is a concern for me"
    Maybe I should have said 'both of us'.

    And you can do some things with strap-ons/toys but not others. I can't judge how it would work out though as I haven't been in that situation.
     
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    Yes I would, but I guess it depends on the type of person he is.
     
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    I've crushed on a few FTMs before, so I could easily see myself dating one.
     
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    At present, I think I would only be ok with dating a cis-gendered male. I don't know how I'd feel about dating a FTM, but I really don't see it happening. As friends, I'm open to the whole LGBTQIA spectrum (and straights too :grin:).
     
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    I've felt attracted to some trans men before, so yes. Being pre-op wouldn't bother me, as I'm not one of those gay guys who runs around freaking out when he sees a vagina. My actual preference is that he would remain pre-op, unless he felt that he needed it to be comfortable in his body (in which case I'd support him completely). The issue at hand here is that everything I've heard about the FTM surgery is... not all that good. I'd worry about how it'd impact our sex life.
     
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    I would happily date a trans* woman. I think it would be more likely to work out if she plans on transitioning socially at some point, but that's because I get extremely uncomfortable at the thought of being perceived as the "woman" in a heterosexual relationship, especially as I am neither a woman nor, in this hypothetical example, engaged in a hetero relationship.
     
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    I had crushes and got turned on by manly lesbians but i could never date a ftm especially if they got surgery done.
     
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    I'd date a trans person. Obviously.

    I recently watched a video about cis gay guys fucking cis trans guys. From what I can tell, it looks pretty damn fulfilling.
     
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    It makes no difference to me :slight_smile:
     
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    How about us non-monosexuals?
    I would. I get attracted to people's personality so the bits don't matter nor does their gender identity or expression.
     
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    yeah why not
     
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    I'd definitely date a trans woman.
     
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    I would date a transgender person and wouldn´t have minded if my boyfriend was one. I was a virgin, anyway so I´d just learn to deal with certain stuff I suppose.
     
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    I'd date a FTM if they were right for me, just like any other guy. Being a FTM isn't a deal breaker/maker.
     
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    I'd date an attractive trans person. There are creative ways to give and receive pleasure. I met one FtM that had the cowboy look working. It made me hot and bothered.
     
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    I'd date a FTM or MTF if I found them attractive. Problem is I can't crush on them. So logically yes if I crush on one but no since I can't crush on one. Does that make since? I'm open minded and hey maybe I haven't met the right one.
    Why we're at it what about non gender binaries?
     
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    If I'm totally honest with myself, I would probably only date a post-op FTM - the bits matter a lot to me, and I'm a bit vaginophobic, but yeah. Once they've transitioned though, I regard them the same as any other man :slight_smile:.
     
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