I was just wondering if anyone is in a glass closet, if they ever have been, or if they have any opinions on it. For those unaware with this term, a glass closet is when you don't admit you're gay but people have an idea. For example, (until recently) Anderson Cooper and Ricky Martin would have been considered in a glass closet. If anyone has any links to literature on the effects of being closeted, please share
I am glass closeted to one particular group of family members who I see maybe 4 times a year. They are religious and I just try to avoid anything about it around them. I've still worn my favourite rainbow tshirt when seeing them though, so they'd have to be stupid to not realise. If they were to directly ask me if I was gay I wouldn't lie though... but if they asked if I had a girlfriend I would just say 'no'.
I would say that I'm basically in a glass closet right now. I haven't come out to everyone, but my sexuality is pretty much becoming common knowledge. Except to my family of course, where only a few select members know at the moment.
hmmmm............*Out Status*.... I actually didnt even know other people used the idea of glass closets when I wrote that either. Anyway, I'm not more of a glass closet because I am flamboyant, its just that I am noticeably not straight. I one of those people that you dont know why you know, but you just know. Many people often say that its not that people look at you and think you are gay, but it just doesnt feel right to imagine you as straight/with a women ^-^. I'm not sure what you mean by information, though. I dont think it is too different unless you live in a more male model/homophobia community. I actually prefer it this way because I never have had to worry about how I came across or feeling like I am hiding something.
I'm kind of in a glass closet...I mean I have a lot of feminine tendencies...but my mum just says I'm 'European...' eh:/
I am out to everyone, but there are some people (namely people who I went to high school with) who think/know im gay by virtue of other people telling them, or by rumors of it circulating, though I never officially came out to them - so I guess in that sense I am sort of in a glass closet.
Hahahaha! (at what your mum said, not you, if I have to clarify) I'm pretty sure many if not a healthy majority of people are in 'glass closets' before they come out, they just don't realise. There's a few gay guys I know who were basically 'the last to realise'.
I'm not in a glass closet at all; my friends have absolutely no clue even though I let them tease me about it.. but they actually have no idea I might be gay. Bi.. whatever. Sometimes I kind of wish I was in a glass closet though. For some of you that might seem like, whaaaat.. I guess it's because at least then, you're excused for your behaviour. Some people may just turn a blind eye when you say things-just because they know you're probably gay. Whereas not being out at all, particularly with friends, it's difficult to express how you feel because its almost alwaaays assumed that I'm kidding. And I'm too worried to be honest with them.
To some I am, yeah. Most people don't have a clue though! At school people always used to call me gay and ask if I was, but these days nobody does. Think years of trying my hardest to act what is considered straight embedded within me.
Reminds me of a guy my father met in a men's group. He was a deeply religious guy who was fairly homophobic and just starting to realize he was attracted to men. He kept asking about various reactions to men and whether it was 'OK' to feel that way, and wanting reassurance that it wasn't a bad thing. He didn't realize until later that all those feelings meant he was gay, but it was pretty obvious to the other guys there. (The group was about half and half in orientation.)
Well my mom is apparently terrified that I am gay. Does that count? I never flaunt it but I pretty much fulfill all lesbian stereotypes without even trying and everyone knows I support gay rights sooooo it's not really a big leap to assume that I am gay.
Apparently I am, although I only have two confirmations. A friend of mine came out to me accidentally (wrong number text). I told him I was gay too and he said he knew. (So maybe it wasn't a wrong number text... hmm.)
For some reason, nobody I've came out to says they ever expected I was gay. I always considered myself at least a little flamboyant. I guess my closet isn't/wasn't glass.
I never admitted I am gay, but some people keep on asking me. I don't know if that's counted as a glass closet because they had to ask me, and they seem to believe me.
My closet is about like the "Iron Maiden of Nuremberg"... So no. I am slowly coming out though, so I am inching out of there...
Hmm, generally people don't suspect me of being gay so no, I'm not in a glass closet. Although when I was at uni, the only thing that gave me away to 2 friends was that I didn't talk about girls so they did ask me. You know how it is with straight guys and their dirty talk about girls x_x However, lately I'm becoming more confident in my sexuality so I've been chipping away those barriers that I built up over the years. It is so boring to maintain a masculine behaviour/image. I'm not afraid to wear what I want now and to be more flamboyant (I still find this difficult though ) Lol! Gen you crack me up sometimes. (*hug*)
At work and school, everyone makes hints and jokes that I am gay. I really haven't even come out to hardly anyone, and those that I did come out to have kept it to themselves. I guess there is just something gay about me. Idk. When I do come out, they just say, "yeah that is what everyone thinks."