So, without going into any details, i've met a gorgeous and way way cool 18 year old girl i really like. Will dating this girl make me look like an unconscionable sleazebag? (i am soon to be 26)
I'm looking for the button marked "if you care more about whether some people will consider you an unconscionable sleazebag than about this girl, then you probably shouldn't date her". Lex
I don't think so, to be honest. I've always preferred older men (although my boyfriend is actually a year younger than me, but that's quite an anomaly for me ), and in my opinion, you're both adults, and once you're both over 18 the age difference doesn't have nearly as much of a bad vibe as it would do if she were still under 18.
As long as she's over the legal age of consent in your area then it's fine in my book. I don't think that looks too bad if she's 18.
Jesus Christ I can't believe people actually worry about age difference. It's not your fault, it's the people who say it's wrong's fault. The only issue with age difference, is there may not be a whole lot in common depending on the age difference. Other than that, a 20 year old could date a 2,000 year old and it would be perfectly fine. It just probably wouldn't work out. If you both feel comfortable with it, that's all that matters. Plain and simple.
haha, relax, this is merely curiosity, i would never let such trivial nonsense deter me in even the most minor way. I was however, having a discussion with a bit of a traditionalist friend of mine, which turned into a debate, and i made this thread to test the public waters and prove my point
18 and 26 is on the edge in my book but honestly if the two of you feel a connection, if she is a mature 18 year old, and if the relationship feels like it could be relatively balanced, then give it a shot. As far as what other people think... that isn't what matters. What matters is that you and she are both happy, and that the relationship really is healthy and beneficial to the growth of both of you.
my sister wants a guy whose at least 5 years older than her (when she wants to get married) .. she wants someone she can feel safe and protected with , someone more mature i guess some girls like that personally , id love to be with an older guy
I don't know..I am 23 and I think it would be weird to date someone under 20 or 21. That being said, it isn't like you're 30...Or 39. 8 years is quite a big age gap. You were 7 or 8 when she was born. When you graduated high school, she was 10 years old. When you graduated college, she was just learning how to drive. Something to consider.
Its not that wierd.. coz I would date someone twice my age lol..... I blame Self Esteem.. stupid bitch.
If she wants a relationship with you equally as much than it really shouldn't be an issue. In all honesty, she's legal so it's not really anyone else's business apart from the two of you. Even if some people may sort of judge you for it.
Probably not what you want to hear, but yeah, I reckon it may make you look sleazy. As an 18 year old girl, if one of my friends started dating a 26 year old, I know that we'd all get together and be like "Oh my god, why are they even together" as has happened when our 17 year old friend started dating a 22 year old, however, once we realised that the relationship was more than just about him using her for sex and her using him for his car and money we are fine with it. But yeah, initially the reaction will be thinking about why the two of you are together. I'm not saying don't go for it - I reckon you should - but be prepared that people will question your relationship.
I don't think it's weird. Most the guys that I'm attracted to are in their twenties. I'm very rarely attracted to guys around my age.
my ex was 24 i'm 32 soon, same age gap as yourselves. so long as you both mature about the relationship, and want the same things from it , go for it
It shouldn't matter. But it does kinda seem like a big age difference. Like, if you both were like 5 years older it wouldn't be a big deal. But, I feel someone at 18 is still young, I'm only 21 and I've definitely grown up a lot in the past three years. Don't let my opinion stop you. Go for it!!
Oh cool. My bf happens to be 26 and I am 18 I was like wow. That's me and St. Clair. But, I never thought about it because when I am with him I don't notice the age difference. I see him as a peer more than someone older than me. I mean, 8 years on me is nothing. Its not like he is old enough to be my father or anything; right?