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Your earliest memory of being sexually aroused? How this could lead to confusion

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Confuseddude, Jan 23, 2016.

  1. Confuseddude

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    What is the first time you remember being sexually aroused? I'm interested in particularly early memories. Mine is when I would take my Mums clothes catalogs and skip to the ladies underwear section to masturbate. I've no idea exactly how old I was at the time but I would guess as young as 5-7. I didn't even know how to masturbate properly at the time. (Sorry for the description) but it was more just rubbing my penis against a mattress.

    I'm interested as I sometimes wonder if it was just a coincidence that I happened to see the female section before the male underwear section. As I was so young I was able to get very aroused to pretty much anything. The fact I discovered females first meant that I just sort of rolled with that for a while. Of course, the more I grew up the more society told me that was ''the way it was supposed to be.'' It took me 23 years to realize that I was anything other than 100% straight but maybe if I happened to have discovered males first then the attraction would have been a lot more noticeable from an earlier age.

    Just some random thoughts.
     
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    Well, I remember 'experimenting' with another girl when I was like five or six. It was mostly just a lot of rubbing and I honestly don't remember it very well, but I do know that it felt enjoyable.

    I often wonder how much my early experiences (this one and others) shaped my sexuality, or at least shaped my perception of my sexuality. It's very confusing.
     
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    I didn't mention in my first post but I also had essentially the exact same experience with another boy. It was around the same time as my original post, maybe I was slightly older.
    And I could have written that sentence myself.
     
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    I hvae been quite a late starter with being sexually aroused and all that, like, I knew what sex was but felt like it was something for adults. so when I was 14 i think I was on this app "whisper" and guys started sending me nudes and I felt the first time being aroused. Later on girls started sending me nudes as well and that is when the confusion started
     
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    I'm not sure if I was aroused or not but I remember one of my first sexual experiences was trying out sexual poses with a female friend. I was 10 and she was 8. I had found one of my mom's sex books and it had how to have sex in it, stuff like that (it was like an educational book for adults). We got into all the kinds of positions and pretended like we were having sex.
     
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    My earliest memory was in my early teens - I would have dreams involving a group of friends, and one would always be an attractive, masculine guy who everyone liked. I would get turned on by him in the dream, but my brain (in denial) processed this as me wanted to be like him (as in a role model of some sort). Years later I realized I wanted to be *with* people like him.
     
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    Probably the first time I masturbated, which was an activity I discovered quite by mistake to my own shock and horror.
     
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    I guess I was about 6? Nothing really in particular triggered it though, I was just chilling at home. Also never really went through the whole 'experimenting' phase.
     
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    This post made me feel better! I have always been shy I was a weird little boy. I felt attraction very young with both sexes. My first very young was with a boy. Followed by I'll show you mine if you with a few girls. The first physical action about 10. My first penetration sex and love 13 to 17. It was a sweet relationship and I hide my first lover was a boy and the best so far!
     
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    I cannot exactly pinpoint when was I first sexually aroused. I do remember that when my mom watched "the Bold and the Beautiful" on TV and in the beginning "credits" they showed Brooke's (I assume it was her) boobs and I always got a massive erection. It was really quite awkward when there were others around.
     
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    Watching male gay porn because I wanted to know how gay guys had sex...
     
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    When I was like 5 i would get aroused by kissing in movies and stuff. I also remember waking up one day when I was like 3 and laughing hysterically because of the sensation of being aroused. A lot of stuff with girls turns me on. I could get aroused seeing guys, but I'm way to into girls. :slight_smile: <3
     
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    Natasha you just made me remember the first time I watched the film Titanic. The scene where Jack paints Kate Winslets character naked - ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh - think that was the first time I saw boobies :grin: and I loved it - I knew I did. I used to watch the film again on my own and fast forward to that one scene.

    You see I find it strange that I never had any of those moments with guys. When I look back it seems like I was too young to be bias thanks to society etc. Too young to feel the full weight of internalized homophobia or denial. Maybe I wasn't but I've kind of come to terms with the way internalized homophobia hid such a big part of me for so long, the brain is such a beautifully complex thing and there are a million ways I seemed to hide any signs of homosexuality from myself but how could there not be any clues when I was that young. Why did I never discover the male underwear section, or notice a guy with his top off in a film etc etc. I have a few more examples of very early desires all being female not male.

    A little later and I discovered porn and I remember for the first year or two I watched almost exclusively lesbian porn. By that stage I was making a choice about what to watch (and choosing females) but by this stage internalized homophobia could have been taking a hold but I struggle to see that being the case earlier than that.
     
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    I was about eight when I started noticing how erections felt good and such, and that was when I started playing with myself, even though I couldn't have an orgasm yet.
     
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    I dont remember the exact memory but the first time must have been when I was like 7 or 8 and thats when I started masturbating as well, and I was very, very horny up until I was about 14 haha
     
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    Hey AwesomGaytheist and blueberrykisses, do you mind me asking if you remember what gender you thought about around this sort of time? Or are your earliest memories without any real sexual thoughts that accompany them?
     
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    The earliest memories I have are enjoying looking at guys shirtless on the Internet. I used to look up male celebrities I found attractive online and look for shirtless pictures. Then it gradually switched to looking for more revealing photos - lol. I also remember having a real interest with the boxers or briefs question for male celebrities and I still don't know why to do this day; that "fetish" is now gone.

    Just like you though, I wonder about these early memories. I remember first watching gay porn and only watching that. The most I have seen of straight porn is probably 10 seconds (when it's s pop-up). I wonder sometimes if it would have been different if I didn't start by looking up guys shirtless and didn't instantly watch gay porn. It's something interesting to think about.
     
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    Sexually when I was through started puberty but I did look at shirtless men a lot when I was younger:roflmao:
     
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    I can remember being about the age of 10 and seeing some of my guy friends shirtless and enjoying the sight.
     
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    I did see pictures of naked women at a very young age (that's what my parent's get for leaving a desktop with internet access in our computer) but I don't remember if I was actually aroused. I think the earliest i can really verify being aroused is when I started having very fetish-y fantasies (that's a whole other story). I think that was during the early stages of puberty so I guess around 11-12 years old.

    I didn't start experiencing any sort of male attraction until I turned 17.
     
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