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Why am I nervous...

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Elcar, Sep 16, 2022.

  1. Elcar

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    I want to come out to my friends and I know they'll accept me (two of them are part of the community anyway). But I'm still nervous and I don't know why... so I kind of need advice.:confounded:
     
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    Most of the time nervousness and fear are unrational. You'll be fine, chin up and rock that bitch :grinning:
     
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    I'm sorry, that is hard and no fun in my experience. Then it's like you don't want to see them as much bc you feel like you're being fake and that feels bad too. Have any of them tried to kinda help you come out, like asked leading questions or try other things to inquire who you like? I hope you find a way whenever you want/have to, otherwise I hope you can be as happy as possible.
     
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    Elcar.....It's very understandable to be nervous and even scared to come out. You are, for the first time telling another person the secret that you have kept for a long time. A secret that comes from the very deepest part of your being and even if you know for sure that they will be accepting, there is still that fear that you will be rejected. One of the first people that I came out to is pansexual and transgendered and yet it took me at least a half and hour to finally get those words "I am gay" out of my mouth. Another one of my "firsts" actually laughed when, after at least twenty minutes of agonized beating around the bush, I finally told her I was gay! At first I was devastated, but then she told me she was laying on the couch with her girl friend!! :old_big_grin: I forgave her and we laugh about it now! Sometimes you just have to gather your courage and say the words. I have very rarely heard that things went bad. I think that we will find...that you will find, that you will be loved accepted.
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Yeah sometimes they try and ask questions. But i try and shoot them down with like "I dont know" or something like that.
     
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    Thank you for the advice ill try :grinning:
     
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    It seems like a lot of people have an idea we're struggling but don't do anything to help. Some continue to make anti-queer comments and vote for people who oppose our equality so that's even worse and I'm tired of people like that. I hope no one like that among your friends/family.
     
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    So do i haha
     
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    if it's too hard to say it plainly, drop hints. or just don't refrain yourself from showing it : like, if you're talking about a gal's looks, maybe drop a "yeah, she's my type" or something like that.
    something that'd make them go "oh, right. she gay".
     
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    I might try that, thanks.