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Trying to accept myself and my sexuality but I feel and keep feeling unsure

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Idontcare99, May 30, 2024.

  1. Idontcare99

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    I’m 24m been on here before and have talked about my attractions to females and males. I’ve only sexually ever been with men and for a long time I thought I was gay for years but it turns out that convo is up for debate bc I did develop what I think was a crush on a lesbian girl that I knew after that I started having attractions towards women and using the label of bi. Over the years I’ve mainly only been with men due to hookup apps and started to doubt my sexuality again bc I’ve mainly only had sex with men until I started working and found myself attracted to a female coworker we did make out and I got hard very quickly when we did after that I thought my erection and attraction was a fluke until I got a lap dance from a female stripper again I found myself getting hard/aroused by her but I still have not slept with a woman yet and idk how to let them know that I do want to experiment/explore with them more when it comes to sex bc honestly I have nothing but doubt and fear driving me. I feel like I’m going crazy bc I doubt my attraction a lot but I keep finding myself getting/being attracted to women through both physical and emotional feelings in my body but I’ve only slept with men bc well… it’s honestly easier. Idk if I can call myself bi bc I haven’t slept with the opposite sex yet but I want to try I just don’t know who I can try this with. Does anyone else have this problem bc honestly I’ve been feeling very depressed bc I don’t wanna feel like I’m lying to myself about my attraction and being bi, but my body keeps getting turned on by both men and women so idk what else to do at this point
     
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  2. quebec

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    Idon'tcare99…..I usually catch people when they make their first post in the "Welcome Lounge" but I missed you there, so I'll catch back up to you here! :old_rolleyes:

    …..Hello and a big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! :old_smile: I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent! :old_wink: ) when that becomes necessary! This is a safe community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community.

    *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out, join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. When I first joined Empty Closets I was in need of a lot of support and encouragement and I found it here…EC is a safe place. I hope that you'll find good things here too! Folks here will talk to you and share...you don't have to be afraid of asking questions...we're glad to have you! Empty Closets is all about making connections and giving LGBTQ folks a voice when they otherwise don't have one in their day-to-day lives. :old_cool:

    ****In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled “Sexual Orientation”, there are people there who may have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you.

    Some info on how to navigate EC: :old_confused:
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    *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership.

    *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! :old_big_grin: If you have any questions at all, you can send me a Private Message as you can always send a staff member a Private Message.

    …..David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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