Today Was a Big Day

So happy she accepted you

 

Congratulations, you did great! I hope it keeps moving along for you as well as it has too.

 

Congrats dude! I hope you continue to find happiness in your life, that's what it's all about. Finding and spreading love.

 

Whats your plans next ?

 

Now that you are free of marriage and out as a gay man it’s time to starting living the life you desire. You need to put yourself out there as it is only way to meet other guys. Join a LGBTQ center, attend some events you never know who you might meet. Perhaps your future husband. Good luck.

 

I'm so glad your mother took it well. As for telling your daughter, take all the time you need to sort out just how you want to broach the subject; there's no hurry, and you want to be sure that if/when you do, it's in a way that's appropriate for her age/relevant information for her to have.

Are you still uncertain whether you're gay or not? It's entirely possible that you are and are now experiencing the full scope of what that means, but it is likewise possible that you are still attracted to women too, and instead are going through a backlog period (in which all the time you couldn't acknowledge your same-sex feelings is now coming about in full, temporarily to the exclusion of your opposite sex feelings).

Whichever you are, you will sort it out in time: be patient with yourself, and above all, be proud of how far you've come already.

 

I was very nervous before coming out to my children (4 adults now). But they were very supportive and my son used the opportunity to come out to us as bi as well!

 

Thats Awesome !

 

It was great! He said the only reason he hadn't come out to us before was that he didn't feel like it was a big deal - that he knew we'd be supportive and accepting. He's in a relationship with a guy at the moment but we haven't met him yet - our son is quite a private, emotionally independent sort of person - he doesn't often volunteer personal stuff!

 

Maybe one day you will meet him

 

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Fantastic response David!

 

Hi,

I so totally feel for you here. It’s such a confusing period and as hard as it is to come out to those around you I’ve found it almost harder to come out to me!

Accepting who we are is the first step to our new life and for me I’m slowly starting to get there.

I’m not sure what kind of relationship you have with your daughter. For me, telling my girls was hard and not very pleasant that’s for sure, but it’s been fine. We promised each other that we would be open and honest and ask questions as needed and that’s what we’ve done which has worked well.

I’ve found the first times the worst on everything but rarely have they been as bad as had imagined and I’m sure it will be the same for you.

Good luck with everything and don’t hesitate to send a message if I can help.

 

Porn is a tricky subject tbh, I've been addicted/obsessed with gay porn most of my life but made the decision 6 months ago to give it up entirely. There was too much bad energy associated with it, feeding shame & guilt, pleasing myself in secret, fueling the fantasies that I was watching. I clearly had a problem and whilst it was incredibly difficult at first, I'm much better for it now and feel free for the first time in my life!

It's different for everyone but if you're thinking about it constantly (i.e. like you said from one day to the next) perhaps you should try having a long term break to free yourself a bit.

 

I totally agree with this. I went through a period where it became too important and in fairness only succeeds in making your own sex life feel unsatisfactory as it’s never going to be like a porn film, or at least this is what I found!

I took a couple of months off to break the habit and that worked for me.

 

Good for you Jimbow, did you steadily go back to it without becoming a habit again?

 

Every now and then I might watch but it’s not important in my life, almost not that interesting anymore.
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