straight guy considering indulging gay blowjob fantasies

Now that part made me laugh a little. May I assume that you are conservative? Not that it really matters anyway, I just thought it was a little funny.

Is it something that you will regret? Hard to say. I think some people facing similar issues as you might suck a guy and shortly after becomes fearful that they might be gay, starts severely questioning themselves, enter denial, etc. Some other people might find themselves enjoying it, and maybe that will change their perception of sexuality and they might find themselves attracted to the same gender. Which isn't to say that they are necessarily "gay", but that sexuality has a certain degree of fluidity to it and embracing that part of their sexuality inevitably leads to a wider variety of possibilities.

It's really all about how much you accept that part of you.


As I've said in a different thread

(Look at me quoting myself :lol.
As you become more comfortable, you may find yourself moving back and forth on that spectrum. There isn't anything wrong or unusual with that.

I'm a bit curious though, besides dicks, do you have any attraction to the male body? What about your attraction to the female body? Since becoming more comfortable with the idea of sucking cocks, would you say that your attraction to females has diminished, increased or remained the same? Do you get more aroused thinking about women (or girlfriend), or thinking about dicks? You said you watched mostly gay porn videos featuring oral sex, can you also get the job with gay porn videos featuring anal sex?

 

Well it's awesome you were able to find the courage to post this.. I may be of the minority, but I do believe in self control. If you have no desire to be with a guy in an emotional way, I almost always say that you should just have some self control over yourself and perhaps.. get yourself a toy to experiment with. The penis that you're fond of is attached to another human with feelings.. Granted, they are often okay with living in that moment, I already know that you're not going to find it life changing after you orgasm. In your moment of clarity, you're going to feel like shit. I honestly believe that. For one, you already realize the shameful aspect of mere thoughts. If they were to turn into action, that can be demoralizing for you. For two, you're in a committed relationship, your girlfriend may say that she's okay with this, but at some point it may be something that drives you a part as you grow older. If you've never thought you could actually BE with a guy, I think you should really take control over the situation and minimize your porn watching as a whole, or continue it and do the toy thing as suggested earlier. If you're happy with your girl, why can't that be enough? I would consider just marinating on the thought of you actually...dating a guy.. and how you feel about your girlfriend and weighing what's really important in your life right now. The other side of me says to do it, but I'm fearful of the outcome for you personally and the relationship you're currently in. If you're just so curious that you have to do it, then I can understand if you do go for it, but if it does..or doesn't meet your expectations, where are you going to go from there? :/ Hopefully I helped at least get your mind working on the topic. Wish you the best bro.

 

I don't know that I would worry about it feeding the fires of your obsession--let's be honest, it sounds like you are doing that pretty well on your own. Perhaps the only answer is to do a lot of thinking about what you feel and then maybe...try it and see how it makes you feel? And then be open-minded enough to accept whatever other thoughts come out of it? I can tell you that I had one opportunity shoved in my face, so to speak (sorry, I couldn't resist that) in college, and it didn't "change" me. If anything, it confirmed how I felt. I then proceeded to make a bunch of excuses, give in to a lot of fears and misapprehensions, get married, have kids, and in general try to bury the feelings that led up to it. Without actually FORGETTING the experience, I can guarantee you. And that's what has brought ME here.

If your sex life and your emotions and fantasies mainly center around women, then I can't imagine one experience with a guy would change that. But if you're feeling that obsessed, there may be something more to it, and maybe you're channeling a bunch of feelings that you don't understand to one particular part of the anatomy. And that's not a "gay/liberal" talking, but rather someone who buried a lot of feelings and now regrets it. Do some serious thinking about what you feel. Act on it, or not, but you are better off working through your feelings now than when you are 50 or something--ask me how I know.

 

Welcome to EC!


There have been things I've thought about doing for months or years, and a lot of them I've simply gone out and tried. Not just sexually - I'm talking about things like kayaking. And then after trying it, either I think "yeah, that was great - I want to do that some more"...or I think "yeah, that wasn't as fun as I thought", and didn't pursue it further. But then I at least knew. I could either continue doing it, or put my thoughts to rest about whether I'd enjoy it.

You've apparently had this fantasy for quite some time, and it doesn't appear to be going away. You have an open-minded girlfriend. So why not indulge it? [And no, I'm not saying this because your post turned me on - I'd be giving the same advice to a straight woman who wanted to go down on another woman. ] You can simply make a post online for what you're looking for. You can set whatever parameters you'd like on it. You can insist this is a one-time only thing. You can insist on doing nothing else but oral - no kissing, no manual, no anal, nothing. And if you want to insist on a guy with 10" in his shorts, you can. (You'll greatly reduce the number of responses, but still.) There are some simple steps you can take to increase your odds on getting good responses. I'd rather not tell them in the open forum when we have a lot of people her under the age of consent, but if you'd like, you can send me a private message and I'll explain in further detail.

Lex

 

I have the same fantasy and I have had a couple straight friends let me give them bjs as long as I told no one and I liked it and have found out that I love cocks and sucking them.

 

No. Just running with the title of the thread with this, but no you won't "turn gay". First, you don't turn gay. Either you are or you aren't. It's not some sort of cold that you can just catch. For a project I did for my psychology class on fantasies and dreams, and fantasies for men involving other men was at in the top ten. So it's not as uncommon as one would think.

Again, fantasies and indulging in them won't "turn you gay".

 

When can we become friends?!

 

Will you feel guilty? Why not try it on a dildo and imagine you are going down on a guy and see how you feel afterwards. Better yet, your suck your girlfriend in a strap-on. I know it's not the same as the real thing, but it could give you a better idea how you feel post orgasm.

Then you can take if from there if you want.

This is, of course, just an idea. Not sure how good of one it is. But still something to consider if you want.

Note: I, too, have those kind of fantasies. I sometimes have mixed feelings when I suck on a dildo afterwards. Hence the reason for my suggestion.