SexValues quiz

Well I couldn't get the chart to display but

92.9 feminine
Medium sex drive
66.7 dominant
71.4 vanilla
75 affection

Hypothetically speaking anyway.

 

i haven't taken the quiz. Just finished my rotation at the hospital so i have some time off now, i'll check it out and post the results.

 

https://sexvalues.github.io/results...=75.0&dominant=25.0&deviance=65.6&affect=43.8

 

78.6% Attraction Masculine leaning
75% High Sex drive
75% Submissive
65.6% Deviance-Kinky
56.2% Affection-Neutral

i don't think the 'test' is complex enough to measure individuality? For instance, i'm a very romantic guy, but i perceive romance/affection in a pretty non standard way.

 

me either. Visually, i'm attracted to lean, smooth guys Who are wired Top/Dom... sort of Dom/Top 'twink,' which contradicts the common stereotype: i.e. Muscles and hairy= masculine, Top, Dom, lean and smooth = feminine, bottom, sub. But reality is different, lots of variations and infinite combinations.
my sex drive is maybe a bit higher, but it's very connected to my Mates. i respond to His drive. Which is not to say i don't have my own, independent drive... it's there, but it's also connected to the submissive part of my nature that wants my 'dirve' owned/possessed/controlled by my Top. (Laughing) this test could not possibly pick up any of that and deliver an accurate picture.

 

Hmm. Well, I'm surprised at medium. I would have expected low.

 

Love this, thank you for sharing. i think it is so good and healthy to discuss stuff like this openly, and show that diversity is normal, not deviant.

i used to be turned off by hairy. On me, it 'feels' less sub. i'm not a gorilla, but have a fair amount. i find gay guys split about 50/50 on hair vs smooth. It's not an identity factor for me, i can go either way with my body and remove it, or not, depending on what turns my Top on. i can chose without violating anything in myself. But a Guy Who want's me smooth accesses something extra in me that a Guy Who wants me hairy does not.

As to my Top? Same. my sexuality goes way beyond the physical and i'm very much into 'mind fuck.' i've had a FB for 4 years Who is pretty much physically opposite of many of my visual turn ons. He's got a very ripped physique, big muscles everywhere. He's also hairy everywhere. But His personality is what i term "affectionate" or "subtle" Dom/Top, and that trumps almost everything else with me and opens and controls my desire like nothing else. He's Bi, and only wants/needs certain things with me, and i'm grateful for what we have... but if He was inclined, it could be exponentially more. i don't think He has much of an idea of the power He wields with me.

i go to the gym every other day and do what i call my "skinny white boy routine." Mostly, i want an ass that attracts a Top Man Who needs/wants that. i quip that i am not ripped, maybe slightly torn. i'm tall, lean and toned, but don't want a heavily muscled body, it doesn't feel bottom/sub or receptive to me. i want Guys to feel welcome and big muscles feel more like "cock" or penetrative to me.

There are several women that frequent the gym i go to, and there is a subset that uses the free weights. i watched one Woman Who i see frequently and is very built from lifting. She had a guy with her and was training Him to lift. Was really cool to see, decided reversal from heteronormative. i live in a university town, and there is a decided liberal undercurrent, so not unusual to see people stepping outside heteronormative.

Funny story. There was a doctor practicing at the hospital where i work. i had a secret crush on him for some time. i had not seen him for awhile and came back on rotation one day to discover they had transitioned and that who i thought was 'he' was 'she.' i had a Victor Victoria moment. i was so impressed by her courage to have worked and presented as male for so many years and to stay at the same facility when she transitioned. As a male, they were quiet and sort of shy, but when she transitioned, she was bold, open. It was very cool to see.

 

To an extent, yeah. I'm aware that it's something of an intrusive worry. I expect it'll come up now and again but that's to be expected.

I've come a long way in terms of dealing with some related underlying trauma (that I won't get into since this is a light-hearted thread). Anyway, I don't expect that my attitude will change overnight. It'll take time. I need to get out of my head somewhat. Take a step back.

 

One of the reasons i think it's healthy to discuss who and how we are, to bring all that outside the closet, is i think it demonstrates that normalcy.

So many social norms are only "normal" for some, and not all. Being different isn't abnormal, it's status quo. What's abnormal is ego/ethnocentrism that assumes everyone is the same and should live in some standardized way.

i don't think it's ever "just physical." That's another heteronormative notion, that i think has religious underpinnings, that sex and physical expression can only be exercised in certain context. i think the notion that a physical connection with another person can be "just physical" is an illusion, that we cannot somehow disconnect the cognitive and emotional parts of our self and make something "just" physical, that there is always need/desire driving, or at least is passenger on the ride. i think the effort or assumption to fragment our physical self from the rest of us keeps us from fully experiencing and understanding our self and each other.

 

i'd really like the laser choice. i've done waxing and IPL, as well as shaving and hair remover. Shaving is a no go on the behind, razor rash big time. really hard to wax your own behind. IPL is fairly effective, but tedious.
i do a lot of staring at the gym... i wonder at the number of guys who have these incredible glutes and are straight? i wonder if they have any idea how crazy that drives gay guys like me. i go to the gym and pine my whole work out.