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Sexuality and Porn

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by sguyc, Oct 30, 2011.

  1. sguyc

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    Hey I just found this site, its pretty cool, sorry if this is a weird topic lol.

    My question is how much can you tell about your sexuality from the porn you watch? I watch a lot of different kinds of porn mainly gay, lesbian, and transgender. I pretty much consider myself almost 100 percent gay, so why am i attracted to lesbian porn lol?

    I don't know exactly what I want phyiscally because I have pretty much zero sexual experience (hence the porn), which makes it hard to know if I actually want or could even find the type of experiences that I get turned on by in the virtual world.

    General opinions upon reading this are appreciated.
     
  2. Chrisyan

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    Hmmm... I can't say why you would be attracted to lesbian porn, knowing that you are 100% gay, but i can probably guess that perhaps you are turned on by the pleasure that they express. Do you pretend to feel the pleasure they are expressing, or do you picture yourself being in the act? I don't think the type of porn is as significant, as what it is about the porn that turns you on.
    The emotions we experience that are stimulated by our vision can't be compared to those of physical stimulation. Seeing two people kiss wont make you feel the same as actually kissing someone, so your uncertainty seems natural to me. To your surprise, that which turns you on, in the virtual world, may prove to be the opposite once you try it yourself. The only way you'll ever know is by acting out your curiosity, because there isn't anyone that will be able to answer that for you. :wink:
     
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    I'm not sure porn is always a good way of working out your sexual orientation, if for no other reason than the common phenomenon of lesbians liking gay male porn. Given that, I think it's perfectly possible for a completely gay man to get off on lesbian porn. IIRC, Dan Savage has received a lot of letters from gay men saying the like to watch cunnilingus.
     
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    Honestly, I think watching people getting it on and having a blast is hot no matter who is involved; there's just something really sensual and erotic about seeing people experiencing pleasure. I don't think it's an indicator of sexuality at all.
     
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    Lesbian porn sounds like the worst kind of hell.




    Its possible that you just have a fetish for these kinds of things.
     
  6. WillowMaiden

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    I don't think porn means anything. When something gets you going it gets you going, doesn't make you less or more of whatever you are. I'm a lesbian, but I love Yaoi (male/male manga and anime) and Yuri(female/female manga anime)--and I actually just started watching Yuri and prefer the hardcore Yaoi (bascially Hentai--anime porn) more.

    (Wow, I guess we know who the super perv nerd on this forum is. Moving on.)

    Now I know that Yaoi's target audience is women, so that doesn't seem weird, but whatever it's still two dudes going at it with their penises--objects of which I have declared myself not a fan. When I was younger the first porn I ever watched was gay porn and that's with real dudes not animated pretty ones. I certainly didn't think I was straight while watching it, but it's also not the thing that told me "hey, you're kind of a homosexual."

    Like you, I like a wide variety of porn (lesbian, gay, hentai, yaoi, yuri, trans) but still know and accept myself as a Lesbian, so I would just say no, porn isn't a solid reference to what someone sexual orientation is.

    Okey doke. Later gaters. :slight_smile:
     
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    I could ask the same question--I'm a lesbian, so why do I like gay porn? O-o
     
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    I've known all kinds of people who liked all different kinds of porn - straight women who like gay porn, lesbians who like gay porn, straight men who like lesbian porn, gay men who like straight porn. Who knows why we like what we like?

    It's possible that it could be linked to the fact that you don't have a lot of experience in sex. But maybe not.

    I certainly wouldn't worry about it. Enjoy what you like. :slight_smile:
     
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    I also am a lesbian that likes gay male porn. Lesbian porn is actually a turn OFF for me. I think it's because most lesbian porn is geared towards a straight male's fantasy. It just comes off so fake and ridiculous to me. Personally, my favorite is female masturbation.
     
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    I used to like lesbian porn a lot. Eventually I just switched to gay porn though, I think because it was actually possible for me to experience some day. Try as I might, unless I get a sex change I'll never have lesbian sex lol. Yet I was really attracted by the "excitement" of same sex porn I think. At least that's how I imagined it at the time. I've never really been interested in straight porn.
     
  11. British Lad

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    I like watching certain types of porn evolving women for 2 reasons, 1. I like it and 2.the male version is rubbish, it is complete garbage and not alot of it. I do like gay porn at well, not like, LOVE, Straight porn is boring and gross and so so wrong (in my eyes).
     
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    I like all kinds of porn, but I'll like gay more than straight/lesbian and vice versa depending on the gender of who I like/crushing on.
     
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    I enjoy gay porn the most and think guys are incredibly attractive..so id say im gay lol
     
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    The porn you watch doesn't necessarily reflect your orientation. It can give clues to it, but nothing more. For example, I sometimes watch porn involving gender play and cross-dressing. Yet I definitely know I am a cismale. I watch lesbian porn sometimes. But that doesn't make me a lesbian or bisexual woman (obv). Part of what we like about porn is that we like to see two or more people in erotic states.
     
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    I'd say it depends on which type of porn that you are watching and your reasons for doing so. If you're watching heterosexual porn, are you looking at the male or female? Which of those do you find sexually pleasing? If you're watching gay porn, is it because you're attracted to the same-sex or is it because you're just a little curious?

    I used to watch heterosexual porn a lot and try to fool myself into believing that made me straight, but I sure as hell wasn't looking at the female! But generally these days I don't watch porn, I actually don't find gay porn that pleasurable to watch...
     
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    Hey, thanks for replying.

    You know, I came out to a bunch of people since making this thread. But my porn habits haven't really change. Hetero porn is about the only kind I don't watch to be honest. I still watch a good deal of girl/girl porn. Mostly I watch TS porn. I like TS porn more than most of the gay porn out there. Honestly gay porn sucks. I pretty much only fantasize about men, but when I want visual stimulation the gay stuff is all so ridiculously fake and I just can't get into it (I still watch some tho). I don't really know why beyond that.

    Honestly my enjoyment of lesbian porn (of which I have met no other gay person who shares this trait) (edit. nvm just read the posts above mine lol) confuses the hell out of me. Sometimes when I feel like doing the deed I will think about what I feel like watching and I just really would rather watch girl/girl at that point in time than gay.It makes me think that I have some attraction to girls, but I have no interest in the "penetrative" part of normal hetero sex and I don't have the sexual drive that most straight/bi guys have for girls in real life.

    It's frustrating.
     
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    I've kind of had the same issue lately, though from watching porn that's man-on-woman. Though I don't watch it nearly as often, even then usually just a quick look and I move on [I actually enjoy gay porn much more (Haha,)] it bothered me because I thought it meant I had an interest in women that I was repressing even though, as you mentioned yourself, I'm not personally interested in straight sex and vastly prefer thinking about being with another man.

    This reminds me of another post I read recently on another thread that went into detail about Kinsey 5's. Where one may have some interest in the opposite sex, finding them attractive to a degree and whatnot, but just not enough to have a sustainable long-term relationship, presuming that is what you're looking for.

    I'm not sure if this helps at all, but hopefully your frustration will eventually pass. :slight_smile:
     
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    I think that thing you said about a long term relation is what keeps a lot of people, including myself, from accepting being gay.. because I know I never let myself tthink about emotional connections to men. I have always only seen myself living my life with a girl. However, I am vastly more sexually attracted to other men... so I know the emotional stuff will come
     
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    Also, one think that I find kind of interesting is that gay porn kind of sucks in a way. Like, I hate how the guys kiss most of the time. It just feels too aggressive or something. Whereas kissing in lesbian porn seems more erotic.

    Just my 0.02
     
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    For me, I really ONLY like amateur gay porn, to see two men making love, not just having sex. But it was kind of a development process for me. At first I liked straight porn, then briefly branched to lesbian (only into it because friends were), then finally only gay. I tried to convince myself it was just a phase, but 2 years later. I was still ONLY looking at gay porn.

    Initially, it was the excitement of just watching sex that got me, but slowly and surely I figured out what I was (and am) REALLY attracted to...