I'm 28 m I've been out of the closet service I was 21. I haven't hooked up with a guy a ever and I haven't hooked up with a chick since I came out. Now I've pretty much been masturbating sure to anxiety and a dear of getting out there. I was wondering why I can only get off to fantasies and porn of women? Why is it I can't get off to men naked and one's I've found cute in life? Is it because I've been trained to get off to women? Do I have internalized homophobia that is stopping me from getting aroused to men? Might I be straight? (Help me)
I have a similar problem. I find guys attractive, but I wouldn't actually want to have sex with them. I wouldn't like it. I'm borderline asexual in some ways. It's not a problem. Don't worry about it. Maybe you need to find someone and take it from there.
From what very little that you have said here I wonder why you think that you are gay? If you can only get aroused by women it seems to me that you are straight or if you do sometimes get aroused by men that you would then be bisexual.
So if you've never been able to reach orgasm thinking about men, or watching gay porn, and only can reach orgasm thinking about women or watchign porn about women, what is it that makes you think you're gay? And what motivated you to come out?
its possible the men you are seeing in that porn aren't your preferred type. I remember watching gay porn and not being turned on by it for a while until I realized I'm not into middle aged dude-bro wookie bodybuilders who look like they're constantly going to pop a vessel. once I figured out my type it was way easier to watch.
I get nervous around guys. I sometimes got semi hard-ons, but when I would decide to test myself to the same person it never worked. Also, I came out because I was visibly confused. My brother in law asked me you gay. I just said yes. And we'll word spread and I never denied it.
What you are describing does not sound like someone who is gay. It sounds like there could be a mental health issue, either anxiety or OCD, that's getting in the way here.
