I want to buy a dildo. BUT!

Yeah bag would be good. Be brave Well who ever is there to give it to you. Its not gonna be world end for u if u really want it. You should go for it. U can shop from internet aswell if u cant get yourself to go in the store.

 

You should keep in mind, that a person working in a smut shop has probably seen some weird stuff from all walks of life, so I would doubt they would give you any weird looks for purchasing a dildo.
Keep in mind that both straight and gay men use them, it's just more taboo for the straight guy to use it.
So go on in there with your chin held high, because in a shop like that, being judged by anybody in there is probably the furthest thing from reality ^^

 

Yeah, bring a bag, so you can take it home with you. They won't care at all, business is business, its a sex shop after all. It kinda saying a tattoo parlor won't do tattoo because they don't like the design you choose. Plus, if your that worried about it you could say it is a gift for your girlfriend.

 

Yeah, like others said, if someone is working in a sex shop, they won't look at you funny for buying a dildo. I mean, what else are you gonna buy in a sex shop--a candy bar? LOL don't be insecure about the fact that you're a guy buying one. For all they know, you could be a guy buying something for your girlfriend. They don't know why you're there or who it's for. Of all the things they see there, a young guy buying a dildo is nothing.

 

You could hide it in your butt! :roflmao: Hehe, but seriously I'm sure they'll have bags for you to stick your purchases in. That would seem like a basic amenity for that kind of shop.

Also, not only do you have to hide it going home, but also from your parents. Hopefully they're not the snooping type.

 

Don't be ashamed. I mean, I can understand why you'd want to avoid parents or neighbors seeing it, but don't get embarrassed inside the shop. Everyone inside is doing precisely the same as you, and the staff sell sex toys to everyone inside. They won't think anything of you. Just treat it as you would a purchase for anything else, and don't do that avoiding looking up from the floor thing that I suspect most people are tempted to.

And hey, they'll never see you again. They don't know your name, and it's completely anonymous. What's the harm?

 

Guilt is undeserved. We own our bodies and if we want a dildo- that is our desire we are honoring.

I have been an enema user for both medical and sexual uses for much of my life, also needing to use pads/tampons and yes- diapers for IBS&Cancer entangled continence issues. If you think buying a dildo in a sex shop at age 20 is scary etc- envision a 15 year old boy needing to buy pursettes tampons, enema soap a large box of belted kotex. and trying to select a comfortable belt for them. Those items might need a bit of google-fu to identify if you're under some ages.. but the NEED to have something whether medical or sexual is the same stress.

And we simply can decide to live on our terms

 

People in a sex shop would likely never bat an eye at a guy coming in to buy a dildo. That's the business they're in, and I can guarantee, they've seen WAY weirder stuff. My husband has bought me dildos and vibrators before. For all they know, you're buying it for your girlfriend/wife.

 

You know you can buy that stuff online, right? I just bought one on amazon.com!

 

As others have said, no one working at a sex shop is going to care what you buy. They almost certainly provide their own plain brown bags. No need to be embarrassed or act ashamed and that includes being fully upfront and casual about the fact that you are buying it for you, not an imaginary girlfriend. On a related note, I'd recommend looking on Amazon, even if you can't buy online. Amazon has a huge selection and includes customer reviews, which can be helpful when considering a purchase of something you intend to insert in your body and to use for sexual pleasure.

As far as lubes are concerned, something water based is probably best. The store will probably have a wide selection, including small sample sizes up near the counter. My recommendation is that you buy one or two of the sample sizes, or at least the smallest size you can that you think will provide enough for you to experiment a bit. Once you find a lube you like, you can always buy it in quantity.

Finally, when considering a dildo for anal play always be sure to get something that has a flange at the base or flares out or the like. Basically something to prevent it being sucked inside you. The muscles back there are surprisingly powerful once you get going and that is a trip to the ER you really don't want.

On a related note, you mention living with your parents. I will assume that hiding the toy is something you've already got covered. However, also bear in mind that you will need to clean it and let it dry a bit after each use, that lube can stain (another reason that water based is good, it cleans easily, although buying an extra towel or two just to put down before play time might be something to consider), and that a lubed up toy can make a bit of noise when being used...energetically. Just things to keep in mind and include in your planning.

Hope this helps,

Todd

 

Sorry, I just read the initial post.

 

Why don't you buy them online it saves the hassle I buy all my dildos and sex toys online

 

You'd be surprised how understanding the average 40 year old guy working in a sex store is. Firstly, everything AKTodd said! They might ask you for ID, don't worry, you claim to be over the legal age, thus you should be allowed in. It's one thing to know it's perfectly okay and quite another to actually go inside the shop and buy the damn dildo. Have you ever thought about how terrified some other shoppers might be? The last thing on their minds would be paying attention to you! It's a bit like when you go to the men's bathroom - that kind of silent awkwardness. None of the people you meet in there will remember you a week from now. I promise you that. Unless you're dressed extremely odd or behave really strange... you'll be fine! If you meet somebody you know in there I doubt they'll want to kick up a fuss about it.

Don't be afraid to ask the workers if you have any questions. Most of them are cool folk, they probably won't be surprised if you're nervous. You can ask them what lube they recommenced for the dildo you buy. You're not pestering them, they're paid to provide a service, and it should only take a few minutes. If they react badly (which is rare!), then they're just being a jerk and/or having a bad day. Don't take it personally. If you can't bring yourself to do that then you can research online what is suitable for the material of the dildo. I buy a lot of stuff from hardware stores, and I'm glad most people think it's all for DIY! Honestly, sex stores still scare ME a bit. And I'm a kinkster that's enjoyed pretty crazy stuff. After the first time it is not such a big deal anymore. You might laugh at how scared you were.

 

Honestly I'm sure no matter who it is they would be understanding. They've seen hundreds of people in and out of that store everyday and they all pretty much buy the same things. I would bring your own bag though.