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I am a gay man who likes watching lesbian porn.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by andrew812, Oct 23, 2013.

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  1. jalen

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    I just now came out to myself and two of my friends in the past week. It's going to be a long road ahead but I'm excited to finally be myself. It's also cool to see another Hoosier as well!
     
    #21 jalen, Oct 25, 2013
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    That's awesome jalen. Good luck!
     
    #22 andrew812, Oct 25, 2013
  3. cm81990

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    Matt, there's a possibility you are bisexual if you feel sexual urges for men as well. Gay? Nope, since you said you have sexual desires for women. Str8? Possibly if you only have sexual feelings for women. You may desire a deep platonic friendship with another guy. You could be lacking that healthy male companionship in your life and you're confusing that with sexual orientation. All males need healthy platonic relationships with other males regardless if they are straight, gay, or bi.

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    I wouldn't necessarily write off females. You never know.
     
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    Cm81990... I can relate very much to your post. I have a history of sexual attraction to women, have a relationship, enjoy for a certain time, become depressed, have confused gay feelings, break up, feel good.... And repeat! I don't really have many platonic male friends, I'm struggling to make sense of my situation right now.

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    Oops, previous post was for Matt!
     
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    If it helps I know a straight women who loves watching gay porn (Man on man) but has absolutely no intention of getting with a women (at the age of 60) so i think its more admiration than anything
     
    #25 Wardrobe93, Oct 30, 2013
  6. cm81990

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    Even if your post was intended for Matt, would you consider these confused "gay feelings" as emotional or sexual? If it's sexual, then it has to deal with your sexual orientation. You will need to find ways to accept that as your reality and figure out how to integrate that into your life. This website is the perfect place to ask for advice and support for sexual orientaion issues. If it's emotional, then the "lack of platonic male friends" may be the cause. It has been disproven that lack of close male friends or a lacking father figure causes same sex sexual desires.
     
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    I've known many a straight guy who enjoys gay porn.
    Remember that sexuality is somewhat fluid.
    You're in a similar situation to those guys, so the answer to your question should be roughly the same.
     
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    I'm bisexual and enjoy gay porn more than lesbian and straight porn
     
    #28 stocking, Oct 30, 2013
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    It does seem like there's this double standard, where male sexuality is thought to be visual and concrete, and the expectation that all gay men must only watch gay porn, all straight men only watch straight porn, all bisexual men only watch bisexual porn (or straight and gay porn equally), and so on.

    Personally, I don't think what type of porn you watch is the best indicator of sexual orientation, since people watch different types of porn and for different reasons. If you're comfortable with seeing and describing yourself as gay, this shouldn't have you questioning everything all over again. There's a difference between being turned on by a fictional fantasy, and feeling attraction towards those you are watching.

    With porn, it's also possible to condition yourself into getting off to a certain stimulus, meaning long-term, it can literally alter your brain responses and orgasms. You like what you like, and anyone who has a problem with that isn't worth bothering with, anyway, basically.
     
    #29 gravechild, Oct 30, 2013
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    Nice to know other people are in the same boat.....

    As to not having a platonic male relationship, I actually have many, more so than women. I don't know wether this is out of trying to play the straight man or the industry I work in, but I have close male friends from work and outside of work.

    On a side note my depression is getting so bad family and friends are starting to notice :/ The "are you ok?" questions are becoming more frequent.

    I really just want to go to a gay coming out workshop, sit there quietly for a week then ball my eyes out. But the only one I could find is 5mins from my girlfriends house :/
     
    #30 matt19856789, Nov 1, 2013
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