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Gender Identity Question

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by LilLady9, Feb 6, 2021.

  1. LilLady9

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    I'm a cisgender bisexual male in my twenties.

    I'm pretty comfortable with my birth gender but there are some things I've noticed...

    I do have some relatively feminine characteristics. I also have some relatively feminine interests.

    third, when I watch straight porn, I often fantasize about being the woman (I feel like this is the biggest things of them all that I have noticed.)

    What are your thoughts on this?

    Is this something common to a bisexual?

    Could this mean that I'm questioning my gender identity?
     
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    There are plenty of feminine men and masculine women. This does not mean that they need to transition. I believe that anyone who can comfortably live within their birth assignment should. Transitioning means fighting society for the rest of your life, I think that it should only be done by those who truly need it. I could not live according to my birth assignment, it would kill me (trying very nearly did and was disastrous for everyone in my life at that time).

    I have no clue.

    I doubt it. Being a man with some feminine characteristics is fine. Rosie Greer was an american football player back in the 70s well known for being very masculine but he wrote a book on doing embroidery.
     
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    What about fantasizing about being a woman. Could this be some kind of indicator? Keep in mind, this is only when I'm watching porn.
     
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    If something is only about porn I would doubt it has anything to do with reality. I stand by the answer that I gave and the reasons that I gave.
     
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    I am attracted to women or that is what I thought. Im deconstruting everythig so... now I can tell you, I am sexually attracted to my wife and certain women, but I envy all of them, I wish I had those curves, that skin, that breasts. When I came to realized that I am definitly a female in mind, I allowed myself to be attracted to men, certain men. My dysphoria is not in an unbeareble level, so I can handle it with professional help (for now), but is there omnipresent, is a hole in my heart. As for the porn, I am allways the woman. Love!
     
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    It doesn't sound like you're questioning your gender identity to me. It sounds like pretty normal cis male stuff. It's not that rare for cis men to fantasize about having a feminine role during sex, especially men who love men.
     
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    I think you're spot on. Plus, I could never be the top when having sex with a man. I'm definitely a bottom, which ties in with what you said. I think this has a lot to do with my submissive side.
     
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    I think that we live in a society that has such strict gender roles that men often repress their feminine side. As society changes its attitude on gender and sexuality, women are getting a lot more open about expressing their masculinity, but men are often more hesitant to do so.

    As someone else said, I don't think you need to automatically assume transitioning is the only solution to embracing that side of yourself that wants to explore their feminity, especially if you're not experiencing any severe dysphoria. There are men who are feminine, men who wear pink, men who wear dresses, even men who adopt a feminine name or persona at certain times. That said, the only person that can determine that is you and it's not a decision you have to rush into.

    This is all the personal opinion of a person that's exploring their own identity! Take it as you will. :slight_smile:
     
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    I don't experience any severe dysphoria, if any at all.

    Similar to what you said, I think I just need to embrace my feminine side.
     
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