Hey guys recently i’ve been finding new techniques to deal with my OCD around sexuality and it might help some of you guys and girls. So pretty much every time I get those intrusive thoughts I sort of think about all the good things in life that I enjoy (other than the opposite sex ahah) and I say to myself “let’s say I am gay, I can still enjoy all these things just as much as anyone. If I am gay I could deal with it, but for now i’m going to CHOOSE to pursue the opposite sex because that is what I want right now”. We have to accept that *IF* we were gay we truly could deal with it. This does not mean to accept that YOU ARE gay because well you probably aren’t. Look at a lot of the people on this sub, whether they’re gay, bi, or whatever they still seem happy regardless of their orientation. having OCD isn’t a happy experience at all. I hope you find this helpful.
This is a good advice thank you. What i like to do is close my eyes and breathe heavily. I agree totally with you, even if im gay/bi i can still enjoy my life, the real problem is stop checking gay porn in my ocasion. Or actually checking in general, is very hard to not check.
I haven't been diagnosed with OCD, but I have family members who have pretty severe variations. I don't want to sound pessimistic at all, but it isn't something that can be cured. It really is something that you have to live with and manage for the rest of your life. Medications are only a band-aid, and, ultimately, you'll need Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to really "learn" how to get it under control. My mom suffers from OCD and, for her at least, it seems to re-surface every five or so years worse than it was before. I don't know the neuroscience behind why it happens, but apparently there are some new advancements in treatments such as dTMS. It uses some kind of magnetic brain stimulation to rewire your brain. Kind of sounds like something out of horror film if I'm being honest. Honestly, being in denial about my sexuality would be 100% more appealing than being diagnosed with OCD. Unfortunately, it appears all the signs are pointing towards me having it.
i think the idea that ocd isnt cureable is because you cannot stop intrusive thoughts... everyone has them. the difference is the importance we place on them, the way we react and the frequency. theres plenty stories about people getting over ocd and it barely ever comes back and if it does it is a lot easier to deal with. i also agree it would be more appealing to just be in denial than have ocd. also id say its an incredibly safe bet that you have ocd. especially considering your mother has it. my mother has anxiety and i presume undiagnosed ocd. ocd definitely has a genetic factor to it.
I know a person who has OCD very well, I consider this person important in my life, and it isn't like that for her that it only gets worse every time it resurfaces. She had two or three stronger episodes in her life, the first lasted the longest, several years, until she found the right therapist that helped her completely get rid of the problem. So while it's true that some symptoms remain, probably like before the illness appeared, they were there, just mild, it's not that it only gets worse. It will get better, provided that you look for the right treatment options and don't give up and that you get help when you relapse - with the right interventions the comebacks can be weak and short. By the right treatment I mean medicines that work for you (there is a ton of different meds, so it's important to work with a doctor to find the right one), therapy that works for you (also there are different kinds of therapy like CBT and psychodynamic, and finding a therapist who you click with is very important) or a combination of thereof, which can change in lifetime too. So don't be too pessimistic about it.
