Dating the most amazing man but I think I might be a lesbian

It's important to keep in mind that we can love someone very deeply and feel strongly connected to them, even if there is a disconnect when it comes to the sexual side of a relationship. There has been a strong awakening of your feelings for members of the same sex this past year or two, but it doesn't diminish the love you have for your boyfriend. It simply means you cannot express that love in a meaningful way through sexual intimacy.

It's good you have been honest with your boyfriend about your feelings because the way forward will require more honest communication. Do you remain together (because you love each other) but accept that the physical side of your relationship will fade away as you seek sexual enjoyment elsewhere? Or do you accept that it will be better to end the relationship and find love and sexual fulfilment with someone who meets both of your individual needs... with the option of remaining close friends? You have been given a certain amount of freedom to explore things on your own, but I would suggest you maintain the dialogue from the place of love that you undoubtedly feel for your boyfriend.

It's never easy when we find ourselves in this position. Very few people enter into a relationship with a member of the opposite sex with the intention of causing them hurt or pain and in many cases we enter into these relationships with little awareness of latent feelings for people of the same sex. Your boyfriend can't fully appreciate what you are going through, but you seem to have dealt with this in a mature way so far by telling him about your feelings. As long as you can be kind to each other you will find a way through this, but if it does become a struggle have a think about involving a relationship counsellor.

 

You are young enough to have time to think and maybe try something different to explore you feelings. I am married to a man and I know I also would love to have a relationship with a woman, women make me horny and I know I would love it more than anything. Please allow yourself a chance to try something different.

 

Hey welcome to EC, your story is one that quite often pops up on EC. It is truely a really difficult situation to be in and ultimately nobody can tell you want to do or what you want however I think what I can say from reading peoples stories is if you are having these doubts and feelings now the worst thing to do would be to ignore them.
It is understandable that you dont want to hurt him but continuing the relationship whilst you are not attracted to him will in the long run hurt him more.

It is really great that you have been able to talk to him about it, keeping that open conversation however difficult will be really helpful for you both. I hope you find EC helpful.