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Confused!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by funkmonk, Oct 17, 2010.

  1. funkmonk

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    For years ive been so sure that im gay ive been with guys and out with guys but this past week ive felt attracted to girls i even looked at girl on girl porn just to do a check and i got excited by it.

    Im so confused i was so sure i was gay :frowning2:
     
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    Well, hard to tell. It might be that you're just due for a shake-up, and girls are (for you) "new". Or perhaps you ARE bisexual. Best bet - let it ride for awhile. Feel free to keep enjoying the girls, and the girl-based porn. If the interest fades after a bit, consider it a "shake-up". If not, well, consider yourself bi. :slight_smile:

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    Ive been there before. its difficult to figure it out. I have had crushes on girls. Ive checked girls out. After a while i went back to just being gay. Its like a phase ive been through. But once i really think about it im not really attracted to girls like that.

    I dont know if its the same to you. If you keep having these feelings then you might be bisexual.
     
  4. jacobjake23

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    i'm the opposite, ive had crushes on guys but get freaked out if im ever with them, life sucks sometimes
     
  5. NoLeafClover

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    when this happened it really messed with me. like you say, i was so sure and then all of a sudden this? i try not to take the labels so seriously anymore, since they're not really sticking so well anyway, lol.
     
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    As Alfred Kinsey said, sexuality is on a continuum. I'm 27 now, I came out when I was 21, after coming out I dated a man for a few months but was freaked out by it. Several months after that I dated a woman who was very conservative that when I put my arm around her she said I was moving to fast and we were seeing each other for three months at that point. After that I dated another guy and felt freaked out. I should add that I'm still a virgin at 27 because I haven't been able to commit myself to anyone or even have casual sex. Currently, I have a job that takes me on the road and it doesn't give me the time, but, lately there is this woman that I've known for close to three years now. We've always had a good friendship and its always been different when i've been around her. Lately the feelings have become more and more intense for me about her. I'm driving myself crazy trying to decipher it all, but I am also at the point that I want to let go of the label, I know I will feel much more liberated and free if I do. Accept the fact I am bisexual and go with it. It's very difficult. Extremely difficult. New social stigmas to fight, but sometimes you just go to let go and who cares what others say! :astonished:) As a friend recently told me, "sex is different than love".
     
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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOaXTg3nAuY

    "Paint by number morning sky, looks so phony... Every silver lining's got, a touch of grey" Touch of Grey - The Grateful dead.

    Two thing come to mind when i hear this song:
    1. Keep your head up. It's a crazy confusing world, but you will get by, you will survive.
    2. Not everything is black and white; more like shades of grey.
     
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    I go though similar things all the time, sometimes i'm sure that i'm straight and sometimes i'm sure i'm gay, they all pass and in the end i know and am sure that i'm bisexual. Just let time pass and see what happens, don't go jumping to conclusions the minute something happens :slight_smile: