Hello I am a new user. I have been confused with my sexuality for a number of years now but am too scared of the repercussions if I experimented with a man. I’m 39 and honestly never seriously thought I could be gay until maybe 4 years ago or so. I still don’t think I am but I constantly fantasise about men. I have a girlfriend but have real trouble with performance in the bedroom and have done with all the women I’ve been with. Can anyone give me advice? Does this mean I’m gay? Thank you.