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Bi-cycle

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Lemony, Dec 24, 2020.

  1. Lemony

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    How many of you experience the bi-cycle? Does it confuse you like it does me?
     
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    Yes. Although it gets stuck lately. It is as if the shift-lock key has been engaged so that I’m stuck on guys. But yes, I’ve had the times when I feel oriented one way on some days and another way the next (or one week to the next). When I was in middle school I went from gushing over a guy in class, to staring at a girl I crushed on while walking in the hall at the end of that class. I didn’t know what to call it back then, and my physical reaction to girls was embarrassingly obvious (please don’t call me up to the board, teacher!!) whereas the feeling for the guy was not (friends noticed I stared at him though). Even now when I’ve figured out I’m bisexual I find the male-male fantasies don’t work as well, even though they monopolize my imagination. But I keep at it in my alone time, figuring I’ve just got to enjoy practicing with those lots more to make up for lost time! :wink:
     
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    I experience some form of this in the sexual department, although I think its different for me. I pretty much find women attractive everyday, but whenever I go through "dry-spells," I find myself going on ###### and trying to find quick sex. The only guys I'm into is if they're feminine presenting.
     
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    Have experienced it in some form or another for most of my adult life.
     
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    I go from days of

    (I’m straight here)

    to

    (I’m gay here)

    to

    (I am 100% bi)

    to

    (oh I really like guys more than girls today)

    to

    (oh I really like girls more than guys today)



    It confuses me. What helps to understand it and not overthink?
     
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    Yes! Usually I know it's just part of the cycle and not to worry about it, but sometimes I have to reassure myself that I am indeed attracted to both men and women, and that having a stronger attraction to one doesn't negate my attraction to the other--especially considering I've been "stuck" on the opposite at times, too.

    I'm not sure what it is about us bisexuals (and other non-monosexual orientations) that makes us question ourselves more, but I can only hope it's something that stops with time.
     
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    I'm unsure whether I'm bi or lesbian myself, but growing up, I kind of focused on both, but gave more attention to men because that's what I preferred at the time. I honestly like women more now after falling head over heels for one so that's where I am now. I'm still trying to understand my sexuality, so only time will tell where it ends up.
     
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