Hi friends! Turning 27 and finally putting all the pieces together that I'm transmasculine. I've been out to everyone as a lesbian for many years now but ever since the beginnings of my queer journey, I've felt like there's something missing, something I'm lying to everyone about that I couldn't quite put my finger on. I've had these extremely strong feelings towards certain men (gender envy) that I haven't been able to make sense of (or, really, to accept,) and I've wondered many times over the years whether I'm actually a gay man (only briefly, before my brain shut it down). It has just seemed too impossible a reality. However, ever since coming out to myself and sinking into being trans, I've been able to accept maybe leaning more bisexual. The dynamic feels different to be with men as a man than to be with men as a woman. I'm open to any advice around coming out a second time, coming out as an adult, presenting masc, fielding questions, transmasc comphet, or anything else you found helpful in your own journey. Thank you so much in advance, I can't wait to hear your stories as well. -Kit
Hi there and welcome to the community! Glad you have decided to join. I hope you will find the answers and support you are looking for. Welcome aboard.
Welcome to EC! I'm a trans guy but unfortunately I'm still in the closet (had to go back in, wasn't safe, long story). My best advice there is always have a plan of some sort, but if you live alone and are an independent adult that probably doesn't help much. Anyway, I hope you enjoy it here.
Kit.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! I can remember the first post that I made on EC. I was desperate for help and I got the help that night that I so needed. I hope that we can help you in the same way that I received help. The most important thing to remember about Empty Closets is that we do care about you! We're very glad that you found us here on EC and hope that we can answer questions, give you support and provide a place to vent (as long as it's not violent!) when that becomes necessary! *****There are 18 different sub-forums here that you can check out and join in the conversations or start your own thread/conversation. In particular you may want to check out the forum that is titled "Gender Identity and Expression”, there are people there who have dealt with some of the same kind of issues that could be challenging you. When you have made at least 10 posts on various threads you will be able to post messages on a member's Profile Page. Just click on a member's Avatar Picture and then click on "Profile Page" in the dialogue box that pops up. You'll then be on their Profile Page and there will be a box that says: "Write Something" When you have been on EC for a few weeks and have made at least 50 posts on various forums, you can apply for Full Membership. A Full Member can send Private Messages (PM) to other Full Members and share personal contact info. Right now you can only send a PM to a Staff Member as that is always possible. Here is a quote from the Full Membership information forum: *****To be eligible you must be a member of Empty Closets for a minimum of two weeks, and have a minimum of 50 posts. These posts must be across numerous forums (Fun & Games does not contribute to post count), and consistently posted across a minimum of two weeks. You wouldn't be eligible, for example, if you registered, had no activity for two weeks, and then returned to post 50 times on your 14th day of membership. *****Well, as I said, we're very glad you found us! If you have any questions at all, you can post a question on my Profile Page or send me a Private Message. .....David
Hello! Even tho my journey is very different yours pulled in my heart strings a bit. I've always struggled with the masculine/feminine roles. I consider myself a bisexual female. But I do enjoy sometimes being very masculine with a male. It has been very hard to acknowledge that that's okay (growing up were traditional gender roles means that a female is one thing and usually always submissive/soft). I think you are very brave and I'm starting to see this part of our younger lives is all about finding ourselves. Sometimes I can feel like I'm falling behind in the race but some amazing people here made me recognize I think I'm only racing myself. And that's me hurting me. In my opinion it's okay to change what you want or feel a million times when your in an exploration or transitional period. Because that's what it's for!! You've done everything right and you're an awesome person for the courage you have. I don't know how to help with coming out because that's the journey I'm on as well but I am here to support you if you need it.
