A new beginning

We are certainly on a learning curve. lol. Getting used to another person’s habits , likes and dislikes when you live together 24/7 take some adjustments honestly. However I have never been happier. I am so proud to be a openly gay loving couple making no excuses for who we are. We have even toyed with the idea of moving to a more gay centric city in order to become engaged in gay culture and support the LGBTQ community.

 

You hit the nail on the head GayBrett! I can finally live as an effeminate gay man involved with an even more effeminate man making no excuses and no concessions for who we are. It took four years but I am now living what I used to fantasize about. Having a wonderful loving man in my bed every night is a dream come true.

 

I must say now I am so much more comfortable now with PDAs. My boyfriend being a product of a younger more open gay background helped me get over my initial reticence. It is such a thrill to no longer hide my affection towards him. We certainly are never inappropriate but we are openly affectionate.

 

I was at the beginning thinking everyone was watching our every move. Turns out most people don’t even notice and most don’t care. My bf has given me the confidence to embrace who I am. We are never over the top just to make a point but rather our PDAs are spontaneous expressions of our affection.

 

We don’t make a spectacle of our affection for one another. We aren’t trying to shock anyone or make a political statement simple expressing our deep feelings for each other.

 

For the first time heading to a family event on his side as a couple. He has been involved with someone before but never brought him to a family event. According to him family for most part not homophobic except his father struggles with my bf’s homosexuality. Excited but very nervous as well. This will be a new experience for me in my gay evolution! Always something new to experience on this incredible journey.

 

It’s been an interesting few days. Never ever thought I’d be involved with someone and go to a family event as a gay couple. Frankly I was nervous as hell. On the whole it was a fun and interesting experience. His family is fairly accepting as a cousin of his is a lesbian and was there with her wife. His father was cordial but cool. It was obvious he wasn’t totally comfortable which I understand as he a fairly elderly man. His sister was awesome. They are close and it shows. She went out of her way to make me feel comfortable.
I had an interesting experience afterwards. He stay but I left Sunday night for a business meeting in Atlanta. After checking in I went to the bar and ended up talking with by all objective measures a very attractive woman. We spent 2 hours chatting and it was fairly obvious she was interested in something more. However while I enjoyed the conversation I had zero interest in anything more. It felt so good to know that women held nothing for me sexually. While I already knew that,it was exhilarating to have zero attraction at all. Again it may sound silly but it reaffirmed ( as if I needed it) my total homosexuality. I felt so empowered in my sexuality. I can’t wait to get home to my boyfriend.

 

I wish the same for you as well. For too long so many of us have struggled with our sexuality trying to live in the heterosexual world while secretly yearning for the homosexual.
For me it was so unfulfilling , passionless and frankly painful. Finally liberating myself from compulsory heterosexuality was the best gift I could have given myself. For sure it was not easy nor was the journey without pain however in the end I feel like I won the lottery! Living as a openly gay man without reservation, guilt, shame or excuses has brought the passion, sensuality and pleasure back to my life in ways I could have only dreamed about before. I sometimes hesitate to express how wonderful I see my gay life is because I know so many of the people on EC face such daunting odds and struggles. I truly feel for EC community and hope that in some small way my story might give hope to those still struggling.