Aaargh! I posted a thread in the Later in Life section in March 2020, but then covid hit and we were in lockdowns, and I worked from home for ages... I'm 49, based in the UK, and have always been straight, as far as I was aware. In March 2020, just before Covid, I suddenly had feelings that I was attracted to women, and actually had been for some time, but then did nothing about it and talked to nobody, because the opportunity never arose. I tried to update my earlier thread but it's been so long that I don't thing it's possible. So yes... Hi! I have no idea what I'm doing, and have nobody to talk to about what I'm feeling, and I'm not much further on from where I was back when I first posted, apart from feeling more sure that I'm attracted to women rather than men. Feels a bit of a waste to realise when I'm this old, but hey, I'm not in any kind of relationship, so I can't hurt anyone. I have no idea what to do next though. I feel as though I've been in limbo for the last 18 months, and now I kind of want to take some kind of action, even if it's just admitting something to some of the people round me (god knows how you start that though!). Um... so... hello?
Hello and welcome back! It’s certainly not a waste to realise your sexuality later in life. We all come to the realisation at different times for a range of reasons. Maybe you just weren’t ready to know before now. That’s OK and don’t beat yourself up about it. Given that you now want to take some action, it sounds like you have progressed over the last 18 months. I realised my sexuality when I was in my late twenties, but didn’t take any real action for three years. In some ways it feels like time wasted, but I think I needed that time to process what was going on and come to terms with it. I hope you find the support you’re looking for here, and keep us updated.
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Hi Kate, It’s never too late at all. It comes at different stages. You’re in the right place for support! I’m from London, so if you need anyone to talk to I’m happy to help. Sending lots of love! Amz
im as well new to this community and just came across your post. i want to say i can relate to what you feel and i think you are not alone
Well I can relate in a way- I was in denial. I should've known about both my sexuality and gender identity at around 11, but I didn't until I was 17 almost 18. And now here I am after a ton of crap happening in my life. It's a process, and we're all here to support each other along the way. Welcome to EC Kate!
Thank you! I still haven't done anything about it... I did sort of come out to one friend (who was fine with it and said he wasn't surprised) but apart from that I haven't had any time or opportunity to tell anyone else, or to do anything about it. The more I think about it, the more all the signs were there right back to my early teens, so god knows why I never saw it!