I don't know if I want to ask this publicly or anonymously but I'm gonna lay it out simple , my partner (non-binary,bio male) owns a dildo and has practice with oral and anal, I have no experience with either of those at all, when we eventually do the deed im afraid I will do something wrong, I know they wouldn't mind if I mess something up but im still afraid, any advice
I think you should communicate that with your partner, communication is key especially if you're afraid. My view is that best mention it now before you're both in the middle of it.
I agree with being open and communicating. You also need to know that there is nothing wrong with taking things slowly or even saying no. If something makes you uncomfortable you always have the right to stop things.
How would you feel about buying your own and experimenting in private? I don't know if that would be difficult for you, but bear in mind you can buy online at Amazon and get the parcel delivered to an alternate location, for greater discretion. What do you think?
Ive never had a issue with having packages delivered in a way that only I can intercept them as I have many good friends, im just not sure where to start
Do you mean you're not sure what product to buy? I would suggest doing some internet browsing, perhaps on Amazon if you have an account, and look at the different models and styles. Choose one that is average size or even a little smaller. Get a water-based lube. I hope that answered your question.
I would add to what I'm gay said and suggest strongly staying away from jelly type toys and extremely cheap toys. Medical grade silicon or pyrex/glass toys are hypoallergenic far safer to use and easier to clean. Look for toys with a wide base and stick to the smaller side for your first toy. You don't have to spend a lot for a good quality toy, my lass glass butt plug was under $30.