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How do I know if I'm not Bi in denial?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Thatonefriend, Sep 25, 2021.

  1. Thatonefriend

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    So, I've been wondering, how do I know if I'm not bi and in denial? I know I like girls, but I HAD a crush on a guy before... I thought I was pressuring myself to like him, because I currently have a crush on this girl and I never felt this strong about him as I do her. So this curiosity sparked when I came out to my dad and he was like, "well your going through puberty so your emotions and thoughts are changing fast". My dad also brought up me being a 4-7ish years old asking when I could have a boyfriend. Like dude, my older brother had a girlfriend, kids mirror man. (Also, have you ever wanted to throw your laptop/phone across the room? I do rn and have, but I threw it on bed, I have anger issues but I'm not stupid)
     
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    Can you picture yourself with guys intimately? How do you feel?
     
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    I now know I am definitely a lesbian... that mental image though...:poop:
     
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    If being a lesbian is what seems to fit best for you right now then sure take that label. I think that labels are for communicating about ourselves to others. They should not define or limit us though. If at some point that no longer seems to fit then there is no shame in changing it. At times in my life I have thought that I was lesbian and then asexual. I now use the label demisexual. Go with what communicates what you want.

    All the time. I have broken multiple phones and computers.
     
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    what would be the wrong if you were somehow in denial of liking guys? it seems this is kind of distressing for you