I dont know where to start, towards the end of last year, i came out to my friends as trans, and towards the very very end of last year, i came out to my family, at first, i was very happy with it but now the doubt is setting back in again i have moments of feeling as though my preferred pronouns arent the right ones, yet at the same time i dont want to go back to using my old pronouns and any other name than my preferred one, is this..a sign im not trans? or at least not trans male? or is it a sign im cis in denial or somethin?
With it just being moments of doubt I would think that it is more fear of the future and fear of how things are going to turn out rather than it being totally wrong for you. You are saying that you are comfortable with the new name and still definitely uncomfortable with the original pronouns, I see this as you are moving in the right direction. Maybe you could be nonbinary instead but it could just be that you need to get used to people actually seeing you as a guy. Only you can be sure of what is right for you though, go ahead and take your time.
It is normal to have some doubts. Coming out is a scary process and it can take some time for thing to feel "normal" again to you. I know that for me it was pretty weird at first to hear people call me by my preferred name and pronouns just because it was something that I had hidden for so long. So, I would just keep track of how you are feeling right now.
Agreed with the above posters. You just may not be used to being referred to by your preferred pronouns. If we're being referred to by our given pronouns for our entire lives it can take some getting used to. If you're questioning whether your pronouns fit, you can experiment with pronouns privately in the mirror, or with close friends you're out to. Also, doubt is quite common among many trans people. I would try to identify where the doubt is coming from, if you are doubting your gender identity, or if it has to do with reactions or expectations from family/society.
hi guys! sorry for replying slow, i lowkey forgot i made this post, but thank you all so much for your kind words! it means a lot!
