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Fantasy vs Reality

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Jaimequestions, Jan 14, 2021.

  1. Jaimequestions

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    Hi all. I have posted a few times on here, but I have a question.

    In the last month I have had 2 dreams about a penis and woke up with wood. Is this any indication of anything? Even with porn, I wish I was the woman getting to play with one.

    Peace and Love
     
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    Sounds like normal attraction to me! Your profile says you're bi, so probably just part of your normal attraction. I've had dreams lately too about women and telling an ex-boyfriend (in the dream I was with him) that I was gay. Dreams are pretty funny sometimes and other times they don't make sense.
     
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    It could be an indicator, yeah. It isn't 100% guaranteed, of course, but while dreams can sometimes be nonsensical, other times they delve into thoughts, feelings, traumas, etc. that we haven't fully worked through. The subconscious tends to be more honest and less filtered than our conscious minds, so this could very well be your tipping point into acknowledging and accepting your orientation.

    As @Omegduh pointed out, your profile says you're bisexual, so it's certainly not abnormal to have dreams like that. :slight_smile:
     
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    As I came to grips with my sexuality, I found myself having some really intense same-sex dreams.
     
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    based on what i have read, true 'dreams' - when we are unconscious - are involuntary and symbolic. For example, people have incest, necrophilia dreams or non sexual ones about snakes and alligators. That doesn't mean they want to have sex with siblings, dead people or have real reason to fear snakes and alligators in real life. They are symbolic.

    you could have been dreaming about your own erect penis, or someone elses, or whatever. Men awake with erections often that's why it's called 'morning wood' :slight_smile:

    But you say you wish you were the woman wishing you can play with one-in my opinion, that's a more important feeling/fantasy than any dream you might have.
     
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    Last night I had 2 separate dreams about my cat. Totally distinct, I woke up in between the 2 dreams. I won’t bore you with the details concerning my cat — he was just being his usual self.
    What caught me off guard was one part of the first dream. In this dream, my cat accompanied me on an excursion to an old country estate now turned into a museum. The setting looked very similar to Downton Abbey. A beautiful day in the countryside. There was one part where I was in a large room sitting around a table with several other persons. We were listening to the museum curator talking about the history of the estate. I was sitting between my boyfriend and the curator. At one point, my boyfriend was sort of dozing off, half lounging in his chair, half propping himself up against the table edge. I could tell he was bored, because history stuff is my interest, not his. I put my arm around him, gave him a hug, and as I pulled down my hand, I gave his butt a soft squeeze. We looked at each other. Love. l turned to look at the museum curator. Looking at me, he gave me a nod, and smiled his approval. ;-)
    The really interesting thing about this part of the dream is that I don’t have a boyfriend! I guess it’s just my subconscious doing some wishful thinking.
     
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    Lately I have been more attracted to the penis. I think it seems like more fun. I am more curious than bi. I have had dreams about them and think about it during the day.

    Thanks
     
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    Hi

    Ive been having this for a while too, everyday jjst before i wake up, a dick suddenly appears in my mind, and like usual i woke up everyday with morning woods, the fact is that i woke up anxious everyday because of this. But i worry everyday about dicks, i think our dreams are connected somehow with our worries and fears sometimes.
     
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    @Sadness
    “But i worry everyday about dicks...” Why? You are a young man, you are questioning, discovering, learning about your sexuality. The most natural thing in the world.
     
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    I also found that statement fairly odd. Perhaps it has something to do with OCD?
     
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    Considering you're bisexual (as many have pointed out, your profile says you're bisexual), I don't find this strange at all. I know dreams can often be nonsensical, however, the only thing I can think of that would be an indicator (being bisexual) is if you only have dreams about sexual experiences with males. In this case, it could possibly indicate that you're gay.

    As a bisexual myself, I've had countless dreams of sexual experiences with both men and women.

    I hope this makes sense.
     
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