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So another awkward question?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Love4Ever, Oct 4, 2018.

  1. Destin

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    Top = being the penetrator

    Bottom = getting penetrated

    Side = neither of those things.

    It's basically a gay guy who won't do anal of any kind. I've never encountered one though.
     
  2. Silveroot

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    Well @Destin has a point, most guys don't seem to be able to imagine a life without any penetrative sex involved.

    However, I don't think it's too late to find joy in penetrative actions. I used to HATE them. To this day I'm not a huge fan of them, but at least they don't feel too weird anymore (just not with a guy thanks).
     
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    Oh I just looked it up! Yes that sounds very much like me. But I am not gay. Or a man.
     
  4. fadedstar

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    A side is usually a gay male who doesn't desire any form of penetration (like a top or a bottom does) and prefers other methods of stimulation (mainly the friction stuff I think.)
     
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    I would call myself a side currently, although that might change one day I don't know. You may have met one without realising it, I imagine a lot of them feel compelled to compromise for the sake of the other person. Just like some people who identify as asexual still sometimes have sex with their partners to keep them happy despite not enjoying sex themselves.
     
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    If I were a gay male though I would definitely be a side. I guess it's rare to have straight or bi male sides though.
     
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    Hey, that's cool. You do you. More power to you.
     
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    Same. I grew oblivious to it too. But a guy can be fine.
     
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    So for all the women here who AREN'T into men at all, am I correct in that a lot of women will not be bothered by this? I get this is a deal breaker for a lot of men, but what about women? Keep in mind I would PROVIDE penetration if desired. I just don't want it myself.
     
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    I enjoy them all penetration, oral, masturbation wether my husband does or I do. But I never had a orgasm just from penetration my clitoris has to be stimulated. I don’t think how you’re able to orgasm defines your sexuality it how you feel with another person outside of sex. Sex can be confusing can make you feel things for someone that isn’t real.
     
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    I agree. Because I like men sexually. But otherwise I don't really if that makes sense. Outside of sex, I feel like I am more of a lesbian.
     
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    I enjoy the other things, but at some point I like to penetrate or be penetrated
     
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    I enjoy sex the most with my husband when we’re just masturbating each other. I feel satisfied sexually but I’m emotional more drawn to women. I still find men very attractive but outside of that no.
     
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    Thank you for this! This is EXACTLY how I feel.
     
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    the basic fact that the majority of women don’t have penises will make this much more likely because they don’t necessarily benefit of penetrative sex as much, and penetrative sex will always require toys so it’s not standard like when a penis involved. there will definitely be significantly more women who donmt expect penetrative sex than men. but sexual preference still depends on the individual so this is something you need to figure out with your partner, you can’t go off a generalisation entirely. like i said before, it might be good to just follow your feelings and not try to figure this out in such an abstract sense, because you might run into a girl who does really prefer penetrative sex and then you’ll just be hit extra hard by that disappointment because you relied on an abstract generalisation so much.
     
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    That is a lot of fun too
     
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    @Love4Ever youre very welcome, took me a long time to wrap my head around that. *Big Hugs *
     
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    @Biguy45 its my favorite thing to do :slight_smile:
     
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    It’s not quite up there with butt licking with me but it’s pretty good
     
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    Just have a open mind going into any relationship wether is sexual or not
     
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