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Having trouble orgasming with a partner

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by EpicConfusion, Dec 10, 2017.

  1. EpicConfusion

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    Recently had some of my first sexual experiences and I'm in a FWB type of situation. The first time we had sex we blew each other in the back of my car. He came but I couldn't for some reason. I felt myself get really close, but I just couldn't get over the threshold if that makes sense. It wasn't really a big deal to me I didn't care that much. Just figured I was nervous because it was my first time.

    Well, problem is it happened again. Why can't I orgasm? I've obviously been used to just doing it myself, and I almost always watch porn so is it possible that has some effect? I also don't like to use lube when I'm by myself, so is there a possibility I have rubbed off some of the nerves of my penis and that's causing me trouble?

    I was trying not to make him feel bad because he couldn't get me off, but I think he was kind of disappointed by it. Especially since it happened twice. I mean, it feels good and all, it's just not a mind blowing sensation if you see what I'm saying. I guess it just doesn't really do it for me? I'm just kind of sad because I think that makes him feel like he's not doing it right or that he's bad at giving blowjobs. It's not his fault though.

    Any ideas?
     
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    Sometimes being used to masturbation can do this, and depending how much you did it.. it can damage nerves. I suggest taking a break from masturbation. I don’t garuntee that it will allow you to cum from oral, but it’s for your own health (once or twice a week is a good start). Sometimes sex won’t allow you to get to the point of climax.. just explain to your partner that you had just gotten really used to your grip and that they do a good job it’s just you’re a bit desensitized compared to some, or most. Take it easy and cheers
     
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    Thanks for the advice. I definitely don't do it as much as some people I know... It depends because I have had times in my life where I have done it once a day for months, multiple times a day for maybe a week or so, and recently I didn't have any desire to masturbate for almost two weeks straight. I hadn't masturbated in about 2 weeks that first time we had sex.

    I'm thinking that part of it is just the setting. I am not very comfortable in a car. I'd prefer to be doing stuff in a bed, but sadly that's not really an option for us often.
     
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    Perhaps next time, try increasing the foreplay? Take it nice and slow to really get you in the 'mood'. Drive to a more remote location to have extra time and privacy. I hope this helps.
     
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    Thanks. I'll try that.