Came out to my parents this weekend as well as many other family members!!!!

First I want to start by saying sorry for this being so long. It’s just that a lot of things happened this weekend and just need to say it all. I also know that it may not have good flow or organization because I am anxious to get it written.

So a while back I came out to my sister through a face book message. We talked a little about it over the phone and through messaging but never in person since she lives on the other side of the state now. Well this weekend I went home and she also decided to go home. She had asked me if I planned on coming out to our parents and I said that I had planned on it but was not 100% sure I would. When I told her she had said that most of the family already knew because her and my mom had found gay porn when I was in high school. LOL So they knew but it was not confirmed. At the time she said that she wouldn’t say anything to them because it was so personal but I now know that was not true.

So basically I was home Friday and Saturday just hanging out with family then Sunday came. My sister knew I was going to be leaving that day so she was planning on coming out to my parents house. While sitting inside my mom had received a text from my cousin so I decided to open it. It just had some stuff about her dog show then asked Have you gotten the “news” yet? I thought it was kind of weird. I then started to look through my mom’s texts to see what the news would be and saw that my sister had sent her a text saying I was planning on coming out that weekend. I was in shock because my mom knew then that I told my sis but was just waiting for me to say something. I just put her phone back and didn’t say anything.

So after a little while my sister got there and when I was in my room she came in and asked if I was going to tell them. I then told her that I read the text and know she told them. Apparently she actually told my other sister and then that sister told my mom. While they were talking about it one of my cousins who is staying with my parents because she is trying to sell her house over heard and so she then knew. My sister just said my mom was depressed because she thought I felt I couldn’t come out to them.
I really didn’t know what to think by all of this and was trying to take it all in and then my sister told me that my aunt and another cousin had an idea because of that cousin. My cousin came to visit me and I found a party for us to go to. So we went but they were only there for like 15 minutes and left. Apparently in that time my cousin got the vibes that I was gay and told my aunt and said she wouldn’t be surprised if I came out soon. I guess I should add that my cousin is bi as well as one of her friends that were there. When my aunt heard this she called my mom up and asked if I was. My sister said my mom didn’t say anything but I really don’t know. Once my sister said all this she went back into the living room with my mom.

After I sat in my room trying to comprehend all this I decided to go sit with them. The three of us were just watching some tv. After about 30 minutes when a commercial came on I just said “mom I know you already know but I just wanted to confirm to you that yes I am gay” Right when I said that she got a smile on her face and basically said that she still loves me and that it will not change anything. I felt so much relief and excitement.

So before I went home Friday I thought that only 5 people had known but now that number is at least 11. It could be more if my cousin said something to her husband. The only person that does not know is my brother. I guess my mom and sister never talked with him about what they knew. They said they were not sure how he would take it because of just how he acts. But yeah that is my newest coming out story. Sorry that it was so long, it is just that a lot had happened in a short period of time. I now feel that I dont care who finds out. My next big step is just coming out to the world by putting men in the interested in section on face book. Hopefully it is sooner rather than later. :eusa_danc
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Haha I always use the Comic Sans MS font. I really like it but not sure why. If I write a paper that does not have to be a specific format then I use it but I don't get to use it very often now with college classes. Anyways it was a lot of different/great things that happened this weekend. It was not at all what I had planned or how I thought things would go but I now feel like I can be the true me when around my family.

 

Yeah it was great although I was only around for about two hours before I left to come back to college. My family isn't the closest and doesn't usually talk about personal things so I don't think it will be brought up too much when ever I go back. I am taking summer classes so it may be a while before I do go home again.

All I need to do now is tell my brother. Like I said in the thread my family has not talked with him about it. He is pretty masculine and works out all the time and was also in the military so they are not sure how he would take it. I personally think he wont have a huge problem with it but not sure. Its funny because my family thinks he may be bi or even gay. haha They think that because of the way he dresses and acts. I know that this doesn't mean anything.

 

Yeah we are okay. I was and still am kinda irritated that she told everyone when she said she wouldn't say anything because it was so personal but they all already knew. Since I have been back at college I have not talked to my sister and I have talked to my mom once on the phone but never brought it up.

 

I will talk with her eventually but I am already over it. I think it was just the shock at how quickly it all happened. To be perfectly honest the reason I told my sister was because I kind of figured she would tell some of the family. If it wasn't for everything that went on last weekend I am 100% sure that I would not have been able to come out to them. No, I did not go home this weekend since I went back last weekend and my parents should be coming up this next weekend to bring me some furniture for my new place. Should be interesting.