Would you date someone who was HIV+?

I have two friends who are HIV+. Obviously, sex isn't a problem, but one occasionally wonders about the sword of Damocles over their heads. (No Rocky Horror quotes, please. ) However, both are happy folks who don't let their condition alter their lives at all, and so I take a cue from them.

Lex

 

I think so, well if it's someone REALLY worthed, then I would totally do it.

I mean he really has to worth it. Like the whole pain I would suffer from the disease and the death...

 

If i loved the person, nothing else would matter at all.

Nothing else.

But im talking about real love, and i think real love can get past anything. HIV is nothing compared to real love between two people.

 

I would. Without hesitation. Even if on the first date she said to me "Look, I'm sorry, but I'm HIV positive", I wouldn't mind at all. I realise that taking care of them and watching them die would be painful, but that would just give more reason to live every day as fully as possible and enjoy what time you have with them.

 

Hmm. Well, first of all there's the possiblity that they have it and
either don't know (so we'd get tested before doing anything risky)
or don't tell me. If they were up front, I might
prefer to be friends because a relationship would require a lot
more effort, and it'd be hard if they got sick and died. If I had
already fallen for the person, then I guess I'd have to accept it,
and of course make sure that we keep it safe every time.

It might help to avoid people who sleep around, and are willing
to do it unprotected (big red flag), and not to hang around heavy
drug users. But then again, it only takes one slip up to get infected,
so a person who otherwise has a clean record could be positive.

I know that anyone can get it, even me, and that scares the shit
out of me. I like to think that people my age are better informed
about protecting themselves though, then say (gay) teens 10 years ago.

Remember kids, wear a condom every time, and get tested.
Be respectful to those unfortunate enough to be HIV+.

 

Yes

 

Definitely. (depending on the person, of course. But I wouldn't let it stop me)

 

Yes, sex isn't all that important to me, tbh, XD

But I would be afraid everyday that something would happen to them, but it would make me cherish every minute together with them more.

 

Well you'd just have to be careful (aka wear condoms).
So personally I would stick with someone who had HIV if it was a serious relationship.

Of course it might be tougher, but if they have the virus in control then it shouldn't necessarily be extremely hard.

 

I think that I would. as long as I really loved them - the i'd be just fine without sex. sex is not neccessarily essential to the whole relationship thing

 

I certainly would.
It's not fair to count someone out just because of something like that.

Granted, I'd have to be very sure of my feelings before we ever slept together.

 

I couldn't. Too stressful, and the thought that whilst having sex something could go somewhere and I have a death sentence....

 

You can have sex with someone HIV+, as long as you wear condoms.

 

It still isn't 100% safe. >_>

 

I don't think I could. The stress of it all plus worrying if he would get sick. Also I would not want to risk getting HIV from having sex even with a condom. I would like to think of myself as a better person but i do not think I could do this.

 

It depends. I don't really know until i'm in that kind of situation, but I guess I would stay with them. It would probably scare me for a little while after I found out, but if I really loved them, I would be prepared to stay with them despite anything. Obviously, if we decided to have sex, I would take the proper precautions and hope for the best. It would be really difficult to deal with watching him/her get sick and eventually die, but love can transcend death and carry on through life. That's what I believe anyways...

 

So? having sex with someone you don't know is HIV+ or not isn't 100% safe, and I'm Fairly certain HIV+ people dont go their rest of their lives without sex just because of that

 

Yes, I believe I would. If I liked the guy, and thought there was potential in a relationship with him, I think I could get past the stress and fear of losing him.

 

I would. I really don't see it as a big deal.

 

i have to say no right now. I can't imagine someone being that important to me, my life is just starting and i don't think i will get involved with anyone with the intensity where i would overlook that. Especially if they did not tell me initially.
STD's are one of my biggest fears.
I think if i got it i would honesty kill myself.